“I’m starting to have feelings for another guy”

So, my boyfriend and I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and he is working two jobs, which is nice, because he is supporting us. He is constantly home late, around 11pm, and I’m sleeping, since I have my own job in the am. I know he is not cheating because we share a car and often times I have to pick him up, however he is never home.

In the meantime, I have been hanging out with a friend who is a guy, and there seems to be some feelings there. My friend has admitted he likes me and there has been some cuddling. It really messed with my head and I not sure what to do. I’m not sure I even like my friend, or he is filling the void. I’m still young – I’m 20.


2 thoughts on ““I’m starting to have feelings for another guy”

  1. Molly Young says:

    Hi. Honestly, I can’t say I’ve been in a similar situation, so please do tell me if I’m imposing or projecting or anything like that. From the sounds of it, your boyfriend works really hard to keep the two of you afloat. Two jobs, coming home around 11- that’s tough. And if you guys are living together, it sounds pretty serious. Of course, a big step like that comes with some sacrifices, and that might include seeing him less frequently. One thing I know for sure, though. You need to discuss this with him. Sit him down before or after work, say you want to talk. Mention your friend (whether by name or not is up to you) and tell him about his feelings. Tell your boyfriend about the cuddling and such. If I were in his shoes I’d want to know, wouldn’t you? That being said, the only person who can really step in here is you. Ask yourself- Do I love my boyfriend? Am I willing to try and force some more together time with him? That’s another thing. Maybe, as you’re talking to him, tell him about how the two jobs and time constraints make you feel. Communication is key here, and you need to tell him that. If, however, you decide this relationship is falling apart, it might be time to move on. Of course, take your boyfriend’s words and your past together into account before decidng this- are you willing to throw that away?

    Again, sorry if I’m projecting or assuming a little too much here, can’t say I’m all that familiar with the topic. Just don’t forget about everyone’s feeling’s involved- yours especially.

  2. Josie says:

    I would definitely have a talk with him about the whole situation. Especially if this is a feeling you can not ignore . The truth will set you free and things will work itself out whether it may be that you and boyfriend spend more time together or if you and the friend who is a boy are meant for something more . Just put into consideration EVERYRHING you and boyfriend have been through together and weigh it out. Do it for your own happiness and follow your heart as well as your brain.

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