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“Now that she has a boyfriend, she has no time for a best friend”

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My best friend and I are extremely close. She has stuck by me through my hardest times. I have a significant other, and she is fully aware of that. However, I never fail to make time for both of them individually, because they are so every close to me.

Recently, she acquired her first boyfriend. Of course, I am happy for her. I’m so happy that she’s happy. But now, she spends all of her time with him and almost seems to be annoyed by me. Whenever I try to squeeze in time with her, she tells me that I’m acting like her mother and to let her just be with him. I respected their space for a long time, but it’s really starting to hurt not having my best friend around anymore. I love my significant other, of course, but we all need a female best friend. What should I do?

“My boyfriend wants anal sex”

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Ok so, my bf of two years really wants anal sex, I really don’t want to cuz we have tried before and it hurt so bad that I was sore for almost a whole week afterwards. We have a good relationship and I give him literally everything else he wants. My question is, is there any way to go on with this and not be in pain or mentally scarred from this? Experience has taught me if you don’t give up things like this even a good man will go somewhere else for it. And that would devastate me.

“Not ready for a sexual relationship”

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So, my boyfriend has been with me for 7 months now and we haven’t gone anywhere sexual because I’m only 16 and am not comfortable with that. He begs me all the time for nudes and stuff and I always deny it.

So recently he asked me if I was asexual and I looked it up and said “I guess.” The next day he asked me if it was okay if he got sexual with this other girl, with no love involved. I felt sick to my stomach so I said “I don’t deserve to interfere with your happiness so do whatever makes you happy.” Because I feel like since I can’t provide what he needs I deserve to be left behind. Continue reading →

“My best friend hates the guy I’m secretly seeing”

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So there’s this guy. Let’s call him A. He has been in love with me for 3 years now. He used to just be that annoying boy who has a crush on you and is a bit clingy, but we’ve always been quite close friends. In the past year we’ve grown way closer, and I really really think I like him and he still loves me. We call each other for hours every night and spend every spare few hours we can together.

Last week, I was at his house and we gave each other head …

Anyway, A is a very complex person. Towards me, I really see his caring side, and he has the hugest heart and is an amazing person. Although, I’m the only one who sees all of that. Towards everyone else, he’s just a bit annoying and immature. I mean, I understand that because before we got close, he seemed annoying and immature to me as well. Continue reading →

“I want an open relationship with my boyfriend”

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I am a 23-year-old college student, trying my best to balance out life. I’ve been with my boyfriend a little over four years, and I love him to death. But lately, I’ve realized I want to have an open relationship. Before I was with him, I was with someone else on/off for almost four years. I would really like to explore other individuals, at least for a few months, before settling down for good.

In no way do I dislike my boyfriend, I just feel like I truly never had the time to explore different options. He, on the other hand, is highly against non-monogamous relationships. What do I do in this situation? Is this just me being selfish?

“He sent me videos of he and his boyfriend having sex”

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I really like a guy I met a couple years ago. I’ll call him S. He was 26, and I was 19. We started talking in March of 2015, after both of us were coming out of relationships.

We started hanging out almost daily. Before we’d even done anything, I was already very into him, as this was the first guy I’d been with in person since coming out of the closet in 2013. I was new to being in a “real-life” relationship, especially with a guy.

One night, we’d been drinking and I’d told him about some pretty dark stuff that happened to me, and he’d told me some things about himself. He kissed me when I started to tear up, and essentially that night, he took my virginity. We didn’t finish, though. I wanted to stop because I was feeling kinda gross, and I didn’t want to be drunk for this. So we did.

The next night, I went to his house again, and I was sober. This time, I was definitely the initiator. But he kept pushing me away. Eventually, he said he felt uncomfortable, and he went to sleep. I stayed up, because I felt kind of gross, even though I enjoyed being next to him.

The morning after that mess of a night, I confessed to him that I did like him. That’s when he let me down and said that he didn’t feel the same. Continue reading →

“I’ve been dreaming about my coworker who reminds me of my boyfriend”

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I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years with a good guy. He’s honestly a good person. We’ve been together since I was 20 and he had just turned 30. The first four months of our relationship were amazing. Total honeymoon phase. But after we started living together, he started to show his true emotional weaknesses. He would play video games for hours, sometime bordering on days. He would come home from work and ignore me until bedtime, where he would toss and turn until morning, only to do it all over again.

We never did anything fun or went anywhere together. I was starting to feel incredibly trapped and unappreciated. We fought all the time, with me always conceding my side to calm him down or make him happy. He finally got some help with his depression and things got better.

We still fight, and nothing I do seems to be good enough for him. I’m too lazy, I’m not clean enough, I forget to do things, I’ve gained a bit of weight. All these things make me feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. I always feel like the one who is more caring and affectionate. We didn’t have sex for months at a time. And we when we did, it was lacklustre and sad. When I lay it all out like this it seems horrible. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend and I fight constantly”

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My boyfriend and I fight a lot! We have been together for about 10 months now. We are both in our mid 20s. We broke up once around 5 months because of constant fighting. I was upset with him a lot because I didn’t think he was a good boyfriend to me at first. Perhaps due to his lack of relationship experience and years of sleeping around. But then I knew I wasn’t a good girlfriend either. I was very demanding and would be pissed for lots of small things and had the habit of ordering him around and occasionally making fun of him in front of his friends etc.

Little did I know, at that time, when we first started dating, he slept with his ex twice. It’s the only ex he had three years ago. He dumped her, and she has been in love with him/waiting for him for 3 years. He confessed to me last week. I was shocked. He said he wasn’t very serious with me at first cuz of the way I treated him, and he really wanted unprotected sex which I couldn’t give him. That he regretted deeply after we got back together the second time, and told her ex that we were getting serious so they should stop. And it never happened again. He cried so hard and begged me to give him a second chance. I eventually agreed but on the demand of checking his phone whenever I want, which he agreed. Continue reading →

“He treats me like a best mate”

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I’m in love, but not feeling loved. I’m seriously and deeply in love with my high school sweetheart’ of 5 years, both of us having no other relationships beforehand. Before we were in a relationship, we were good friends for 6 years. We went to college together, went to festivals, lived together in a shitty flat for 2 years, and we often talk about our futures together.

He’s smart, handsome, kind, lovable, makes me laugh so much, and honestly a really good guy. There’s just one thing missing from an otherwise beautiful relationship … He’s a bit of a crappy boyfriend. Continue reading →

“I found pics in his phone of his stepsister in a bikini”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I recently found a section of his notepad on his phone where he was keeping nude pictures of porn stars. I also happened to find pics of his stepsister in a bikini. What do I do? Before this, we never had any trust issues, but now I’m just disgusted. I love him and don’t want to just give up, but should I?