So there’s this guy. Let’s call him A. He has been in love with me for 3 years now. He used to just be that annoying boy who has a crush on you and is a bit clingy, but we’ve always been quite close friends. In the past year we’ve grown way closer, and I really really think I like him and he still loves me. We call each other for hours every night and spend every spare few hours we can together.
Last week, I was at his house and we gave each other head …
Anyway, A is a very complex person. Towards me, I really see his caring side, and he has the hugest heart and is an amazing person. Although, I’m the only one who sees all of that. Towards everyone else, he’s just a bit annoying and immature. I mean, I understand that because before we got close, he seemed annoying and immature to me as well.
So no one knows about me and him. None of my friends, no one. I can’t bring myself to tell them because my best friend, lets call her F, really dislikes him. And she can be so nasty about him, and if he ever kisses me on the cheek or stares at me, she makes nasty comments like, “he’s so disgusting,” and, “ew he’s gross.”
A few months ago, I told her I liked him, and it didn’t go down well AT ALL. So now, I just put off talking about him with her. F will NEVER EVER come round to the idea of me and A, because she just doesn’t see it from my perspective. She’s been my best friend for 10 years. I don’t want to keep hiding it from her, but I don’t want to fall out with her over a boy. HELP.
2 thoughts on ““My best friend hates the guy I’m secretly seeing””
I think your friend is giving you a serious heads up to how long this relationship will actually last.
“Towards everyone else, he’s just a bit annoying and immature.”
So you honestly think everybody is wrong EXCEPT you?
“I mean, I understand that because before we got close, he seemed annoying and immature to me as well.”
Love is blind. When you develop chemistry with a member of the opposite sex, it really helps you overlook their weaknesses, whatever those weaknesses are. But if you want to know what a person is really like, listen to your friends. (the ones who are not in love with your boyfriend, that is)
As always, you should never have a relationship that you have to hide from others. If you have to hide the relationship, then the relationship is not right for YOU.
I don’t know why you’d take my advice on this matter though, when you are (apparently) ignoring your best friend who is trying to tell you the same thing, more or less…