My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. For the past three years, we continuously get into really bad arguments. There is nothing glaringly wrong with our relationship — no cheating, good trust, good sex, etc. I am worried that the fighting is ruining us.
Category: Advice Needed
“I love my girlfriend, but I’m not attracted to her style”
My girl of four years drinks, gets piercings, tattoos, dyes her hair, and has completely changed. I am personally not attracted to these things. I love her for who she is and I am attracted to how she looks normally without all of these things cluttering her.
“He wants to be friends with benefits, but I think I might have feelings for him”
So, I just got out of a relationship that was two weeks shy of two years. Though I still cared for him, I’d been done with the relationship much before I finally broke it off.
A friend of mine and I hung out last night (three days after the breakup), and one thing led to another and we had sex. I thought he’d been trying to hit on me before he realized I had a boyfriend, and then once I was single, he seemed much more into me. He calls me pet names and liked it when I cuddled with him and would kiss him on the cheek. He was super-sweet and seemed super-into me as well. I don’t know if I was just reading too much into it because I didn’t understand or what?
“I rejected this guy, but now I think I want to ask him out”
So, I’m in ninth grade, and I like this guy who’s in 10th grade. I have no problem dating someone older than me, but I’m scared of what my parents would say if I started dating.
So, anyway, I like this guy and he used to like me, but I don’t know if he still does. We became friends in April. He asked me out, but I didn’t like him then, so I told him I wasn’t interested (I had just told another guy that I had liked him, but I got rejected, so I was still getting over him as well). After saying that, I realized how bad I felt for rejecting him. I avoided talking to him for about a week, which was hard, considering the fact that I see him every-single-day at swim practice.
“I took Xanax and kissed my cousin’s friend”
I recently tried Xanax. I don’t really remember what happened but I remember kissing my older cousin’s friend. My best friend was there (who’s taken a Xanax before) and is being really distant now. She’s disappointed in me because she liked the guy I kissed, and because I took two Xanax.
I didn’t know she liked the guy. When she tried Xanax I was the only one who wasn’t mad at her and was there for her. I’ve tried talking to her to make her understand, and it’s sort of better, but she thinks this is going to mess up our relationship. What can I say to reassure her it won’t?
“I need some texting advice”
Hi – Just seeking some advice on texting!
I’m 15 months single after being in a long-term relationship for 17 years. So when I was single in the past, texting was not a thing, and I never had a pager, hence my lack of prowess at the moment.
“My boyfriend propositioned two girls”
Recently, my boyfriend moved in with me. Before then we were long distance, as we lived six hours away from each other. I love him and I know he loves me, he told me first in March and I had known before then but was waiting for the right time.
We’ve had a few arguments recently, about him having looked at other girls when we we’re at the pool at our apartment complex. We have resolved things and are working together to have better communication about things.
“She ignores my messages for sometimes hours”
I have a relationship with a girl. It’s not an exclusive relationship, as she has a boyfriend and I’m married, but we’ve hung out several times. Over the last couple of days, she’s ignored my messages for sometimes hours while in between writing nice things and saying she loves me. What should I do?
“I really like this guy, but don’t want to come on too strong”
I met a guy a month ago. I initiated everything: I talked to him first, I asked him to go out several times. We recently hooked up and I’m not sure how I feel about everything. Personally, I do not know where I stand in terms of wanting a relationship, commitment or anything like that right now in my life. I do not know what I feel about him yet. I just know that I feel a little something when he doesn’t respond in a timely fashion.
I understand the importance of space, so I force myself to not spam him with messages, especially when he is not responding first. He responds really slowly, or not as fast as I would like him too. I am aware that not everyone is on social media as much as I am, but I just feel like things aren’t being reciprocated. The fact that I overthink so much definitely plays a role in this equation.
“I’m scared my boyfriend is going to break up with me after our trip together”
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. I love him very much, but lately I’ve been feeling a bit of a disconnection between us. It has been going on for three weeks now, and I’m getting really scared that he is done with me. I asked him if he still loves me and he said yes, but that is the only time he has said it lately, and he used to spontaneously tell me all the time. It is my first relationship, so I thought that maybe that’s just how things goes in relationships. You always hear that when the infatuation part is over, the passion sort of dies.
Then I started to notice certain changes. He doesn’t write hearts in his texts anymore. Just three weeks ago he always did that. That was our way of sending love in a plain everyday text. Then he sort-of stopped responding to my texts and only replying if it was something practical like time and dates. And he stopped writing goodnight. I would write both on texts and Snapchat, where I could see that he saw it.
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