My girl of four years drinks, gets piercings, tattoos, dyes her hair, and has completely changed. I am personally not attracted to these things. I love her for who she is and I am attracted to how she looks normally without all of these things cluttering her.
I haven’t given her an ultimatum, but I did tell her that I am not attracted to these things. She doesn’t thing we can be together because of this, but why trade everything we have and all the love we share over this? Am I wrong for still wanting to be with her? Is she wrong for trying to leave me for these reasons? Should I still fight for her? Should I take it as she just doesn’t want to be with me anymore and she’s making up stupid reasons?
I am 22 and this is the girl I planned on spending the rest of my life with.
LemonVibe 
You sound very superficial. If you can’t get past the fact that you can’t control the way she looks (which makes her happy), you definitely shouldn’t be together.
It makes her happy so it shouldn’t be a problem…if it is, then you probably don’t love her that much or it wouldn’t matter, as simple as that…
I think she is comfortable with you. And really who she is. The girl you first met four year ago was not
Continue. ……..really who she . This that you are seeing now is her and what make her happy. So get used to it or don’t even think about marrying her cause I think it going cause problems later down the road in a bigger issue