Category: Advice Needed

“I’m confused by what my ex-girlfriend wants”

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Me and my girlfriend broke up last Thursday because she needed space and learn how to find happiness within herself. But she said she still loves me.

Sunday one of my friends got In a argument about how I deserved better and weirdly, that day she was acting like we were dating again. Later on that day, she texted one of my exes and told her to leave me, her boyfriend, alone and block me. But on Monday, things went back to normal, and we were still broken up.

I get depressed a lot and Tuesday I woke up very in a bad mood and cut myself. When I told her, she didn’t seem to care and said she couldn’t talk anymore. I told her that it was okay, and later she texted me saying she didn’t mean forever. That confused me super bad and we started to talk again, but not like we were back together. Continue reading →

“I’ve fallen in love with a woman my wife and I had a threesome with”

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To start things I am married and madly in love with my wife. I understand that a lot of people will not understand the things I write here but it is the situation I am in.

My wife and I have a relationship with another couple that is far beyond traditional. The four of us often get together and things get sexual. This started because I had always had a fantasy of a threesome and my wife was game for it if we found another female we could agree on. We had known Crystal for several years and I knew she had an attraction towards my wife. So over time I worked on laying little clues and eventually flat out telling Crystal of my wife’s and my attraction towards her. Here is the kicker Crystal has a boyfriend and they are swingers in a sense.

Jade, Crystal, James (Crystal’s boyfriend), and I decided to take a trip together, where we planned to all have sex for the first time that night. Since then, the four of us have had sex together three times, and even once, James was unable to go on a trip, so Crystal decided to ask James for permission and he gave it to her. So the three of us had sex. Fantasy truly fulfilled.

However here is the true issue…. Continue reading →

“I think he might be happier if I were no longer in his life”

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I’m engaged to a wonderful man that has been a great part of my young adult years. We have been through many up and downs, but recently I made a mistake that has cost us financially. He resents me for it, and although day-to-day he is very loving, when we occasionally fight he turns the conversation toward my mistakes and becomes overwhelmed and angry.

I am very disappointed that I am now his greatest stress — and quite possibly a regret. I would be completely heartbroken without him, but I think he might be happier if I were no longer in his life.

Any advice?

“My ex-boyfriend has no boundaries with the mother of his child”

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My ex boyfriend and I are trying to work things out. His relationship with the mother of his child has been a problem with me because I feel they have no boundaries. For example, while we were in a relationship she would send him sexually charged comments. He would tell me she’s just joking but I don’t find it funny and he won’t correct it. Now today while I was at his house, her car broke down on her way to drop off their kids. She ended up having to stay the night. At 12 o’clock in the morning, he is alone in the guest room with her for almost an hour. It upset me and I told him that but he didn’t think it was a big deal. Am I overreacting?

“I’m in love with my flatmate”

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I share a flat with one other gay guy, and I’ve totally fallen head over heels for him.

We’re similar ages, body shapes/sizes and have similar interests. We’ve shared our living space since the end of May, but I’m finding myself falling harder and harder each day.

He’s quite hard to read, but is always very flirty. He shows little sign of obvious desire, but drops the odd hint here and there. We’re both also on gay hookup apps, which he’s on very regularly, but seems to meet very few people from (of what I know anyway!)

Things are going really well and we’re getting to know each other more and more as time goes on (we didn’t know each other before moving in together) but I don’t know what to do…?!

Do I build on the friendship and just hope and pray that it blossoms into something, or am I upfront and more direct about my feelings and what I want, but potentially make the currently great living situation very awkward…?!

Would appreciate some advice!

“I don’t find him physically attractive, but him holding me felt right”

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I’m in a predicament. This one kid from my Spanish class and who lives in my dorm is clearly into me. He says hi to me when I walk by him, and when I’m with him he always makes it important to touch me, like put his arm around me, hug me, or hold me.

Saturday night at a party, he wrapped his arm around me, and I gave him a high five and we continued to hold hands. I know that this might seem silly, not important stuff, but it’s so noticeable to me. He’s so sweet and nice and funny but I don’t know if I view him in that way. Or maybe I do. I just don’t know. I’m so conflicted.

I don’t find him physically attractive (that’s mean), but him holding me felt right. On top of this, I find his best friend to be so hot and attractive, but I don’t know if I like the kind of person he is. If they mixed together and became one, he would be the perfect guy. I’m so confused. What should I do?

“I think my boyfriend is gay”

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I think my boyfriend is gay? Have been with him for 6 months and tried to have sex, but he could not keep it up. And then he asked me to Google the bus timetable, and I found gay porn on his phone, then Grindr, where he download it, then took it off his phone, then downloaded it again. But I did not tell him. He wants to move in together. But he has not tried to have sex again since. When he was younger, he thought he was gay, but said he found out he like women. What do I do?

“Guys would like me if they knew the real me”

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Ii never had a healthy relationship — not with my parents, who were so toxic to be around, nor with guys. To be honest, many guys are attracted to me, but they wouldn’t if they knew the real me. I deal with depression — like every year, I spend at least 5 months not moving from my room, just crying and with no interest in life.

Plus I always put vodka in everything. It gives me a little interest in life, and I’m NEVER interested in guys who like me. I only like people who are indifferent to me . What’s wrong with me ?

“I can’t handle my son’s crazy girlfriend”

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I’m 40, my son is 19, & his girlfriend is 18. They have an infant son. In an effort to keep this short, I’ll try my best to give a nutshell version, but will elaborate on anything if need be.

Their relationship was dramatic, as she got pregnant as soon as they met. Constant fighting & breaking up, as we got to know her we all realized she has a major mental problem. I don’t mean that in a bad spirited way, the girl needs legitimate help. She admits to being manipulative and having uncontrollable “personality” mood swings in which she does things impulsively & selfishly. She involves everyone she possibly can in her attention circus, calling out to people who have no clue what’s even going on. Literally everyone I know that isn’t her family has told me they get a bad feeling or vibe around her & she makes them uncomfortable. She treats and speaks to her parents like dogs, which my son used to hate but is recently resorting to.

Since the baby was born and a paternity test proved he was the dad, he’s wanted a family. I encouraged that, thinking giving her more love may help her get her head worked out. All was forgiven and I gave her another chance. For 2 months, while she breastfed, she was great. Sweet, caring, did a really good job with the baby. Once that tether was gone, she slowly went back to her old self. Started smoking again, drinking, partying, and running around. Her younger sister took on the role of caring for the baby. She started college, and soon began cheating on my son with a study partner. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend let a strange woman sleep over”

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I have been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years. He’s a great guy and I am very lucky to have him. I feel safe in our relationship and feel that he is faithful.

Lately one of his single guy best friends has made me angry. A few weeks ago my boyfriend had lied about going to a sleazy bar with him. I wouldn’t have been upset if he hadn’t lied about going but found it disrespectful that he lied. This past weekend I was out of town for a girls spa weekend. I came home excited to see my boyfriend and gave him all the details. I later find out that his friend invited a girl that I’ve never met before to sleep over at my house. He claims that his friend is not with this girl but that makes me wonder that if they are not together, why she had to join boys night. Continue reading →