I share a flat with one other gay guy, and I’ve totally fallen head over heels for him.
We’re similar ages, body shapes/sizes and have similar interests. We’ve shared our living space since the end of May, but I’m finding myself falling harder and harder each day.
He’s quite hard to read, but is always very flirty. He shows little sign of obvious desire, but drops the odd hint here and there. We’re both also on gay hookup apps, which he’s on very regularly, but seems to meet very few people from (of what I know anyway!)
Things are going really well and we’re getting to know each other more and more as time goes on (we didn’t know each other before moving in together) but I don’t know what to do…?!
Do I build on the friendship and just hope and pray that it blossoms into something, or am I upfront and more direct about my feelings and what I want, but potentially make the currently great living situation very awkward…?!
Would appreciate some advice!
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I personally feel as if you should take a step back and work on the friendship first, especially as you did not know each other before becoming flatmates. It’s better to give it time, rather than jumping ahead and making things awkward,in case he does not feel the same way. Although he is being quite flirtatious, he may just be a flirty person in general. Again, giving it time and creating a stronger friendship could also allow you to understand him more as a person. Working on the friendship can be beneficial in many ways. For example, you will both become more comfortable with each other and a lot closer, which could lead to him opening up to you more (perhaps about his feelings towards you and they way he sees you). Also, allowing yourself to get to know him a lot more can help you decide whether he is really “relationship material.”
At the end of the day it’s best to take things slow, as painful as it is, just to be safe. Of course, if he begins to be more flirtatious or showing more signs of affection you could maybe try to hint about your feelings to him and see how he reacts.
Be patient, things will fall into place.