I’m in a predicament. This one kid from my Spanish class and who lives in my dorm is clearly into me. He says hi to me when I walk by him, and when I’m with him he always makes it important to touch me, like put his arm around me, hug me, or hold me.
Saturday night at a party, he wrapped his arm around me, and I gave him a high five and we continued to hold hands. I know that this might seem silly, not important stuff, but it’s so noticeable to me. He’s so sweet and nice and funny but I don’t know if I view him in that way. Or maybe I do. I just don’t know. I’m so conflicted.
I don’t find him physically attractive (that’s mean), but him holding me felt right. On top of this, I find his best friend to be so hot and attractive, but I don’t know if I like the kind of person he is. If they mixed together and became one, he would be the perfect guy. I’m so confused. What should I do?
One thought on ““I don’t find him physically attractive, but him holding me felt right””
If you did not have your sight (blind) to depend on and you were in the same situation, what would your instincts tell you? Our society depends too much on how a person looks to be the whole of the person. What would happen if you gave this young guy a chance? If you really got to know him and he you? The foundation of a relationship, friendship or otherwise, is not dependent upon the physical person. It is all about the soul and a soul connection. However, if you are not ready for that type of intimacy, something which surpasses the physical persona, then you need to let this young man know. You need to be honest with him and let him know how you feel so that he doesn’t carry a torch around for you. Unrequited feelings can cause someone great pain. Remember, always treat someone how you wish to be treated. Bottom line, be honest.