“My sister’s boyfriend stole my wedding ideas!”

My boyfriend of 5 years went to my little sister 5 weeks ago, and told her he’s proposing. He brainstormed with her on a nice way to ask my parents etc. 2 weeks ago, I walk into my mother’s, and my sister’s boyfriend  is there awkwardly, and spills the beans that now he’s proposing to my sister too! (He didn’t want me to know, I inconveniently walked in).

I’m upset because my sister has absolutely no idea, and innocently was telling her bf about my bf’s plans and he decided to sprint ahead and get to my parents first, two days ahead of my bf!

I find it really upsetting, is this wrong? My mother doesn’t get what he’s thinking, he literally has taken all my bf’s ideas for everything that he was doing, as my sister was naively telling him my bf’s plans! I never would think I’d be upset by something like this.


“Wedding drama with friends and siblings”

I am recently engaged and am having some issues with a friend. It all starts back in high school. There are four of us who have stayed friends and my friend Kelly is whom I am having a problem with. Kelly happened to date my fiance’s twin brother Jon, in high school and ended up breaking his heart. She also dated a guy named Ben, for two weeks and then broke it off with him too. Ben has now been dating my fiance’s sister Sophie. Small town problems. Continue reading

“We don’t want to invite her to the wedding”

I’m maid of honour at a wedding, we have a close-ish group of girl friends who are mostly all invited, except for one, who the bride (and her partner and I agree) don’t really want to invite. She is mostly just in the friendship group because it’s been the same since high school, rather than because we have a lot in common.

She can be very loud and disruptive and frankly won’t make a nice addition for the wedding, and isn’t a good friend of the bride. Anyway, the bride already sent her a save the date, because she was afraid of hurting her feelings, but now is sure she doesn’t want her at the wedding, also swayed by the fact she didn’t realise that most of the rest of the group didn’t care for her much either. Any advice on how to break it to her? Or do we just never send her the invite (feel like that may be hard/ cowardly to do). Or are we being horrible and we should just invite her?

Tldr – how do we not invite one person from the friendship group to a wedding (when she’s already sent congratulatory card / flowers, knows the date etc)

As I’m writing this I realise I sound horrible, but surely if it’s your wedding you should invite whoever tf you want, not just people to save their feelings? She hasn’t been the kindest person in the past, and no one is going to mind if the friendship is broken. But fair enough if you think we sound like big meanies!

“His wedding date is tattooed on his arm”

My boyfriend of 2 years was married before. He has a cheesy, romantic quote about love, with his wedding date tattooed on his arm. It’s from 2010. They were only married for about a year so he’s been divorced for a while plus he’s been dating me for a while. We have talked about him getting it covered up a few times before. But he still hasn’t.

Is it wrong for me to be upset about this? We got into an argument recently about it and he snapped and said that it’s his body and he will do with it what he wants and that he is not ashamed of his past/choices. This happened in front of his mom and sister, it made me and our relationship feel super insignificant, especially since I thought we were quite serious and have been living together for almost a year now.

“Should I go to my sister’s wedding?”

I’m in a long distance relationship and we plan out our visits months ahead of time because we know what long weekends we will have to see each other.

My sister broke up with her boyfriend in August, was dating a new guy two weeks later, and 3 months later in November she was engaged to the new guy. They announced they would be married a year from then. Suddenly in December, they announced they would be getting married in 6 weeks. (Some background… this new boyfriend got her involved in Amway, a company known for its multilevel marketing aka a pyramid scheme.) We did our research and the company works more in your honor as a married couple. So our consensus – they are marrying such short notice because of their jobs BUT they are telling everyone it’s so soon because they want a small wedding with immediate family only. Continue reading

“My fiance is still seeing his ex-wife”

We’re sitting here talking, and he’s texting her. He doesn’t think I know, but I do. He changes her name to the person he is talking about or “talking to” the most that day and acts like the conversation is still going on.

She is his “ex”-wife (and I use that term loosely), and I am his fiancee. He has told me stories of how horrible she was to him, and how she “bamboozled” him into marriage. Yet he still talks to her. I know a woman’s intuition is usually spot on, but not only do I have that “gut feeling,” I have the proof to back it up. I know what time he actually gets off work, but he doesn’t know I am aware of the time.

H stays with me every night and talks to me all day long, but I know when he is talking from work, and talking when he is with her. We have dubbed the day I found out about him being married (we have been together for over a year — again — now, and this is a recent issue from August) to be called “D-day.”  He has “walked away” from everything he owns and knows, and I know that he hasn’t. Continue reading

What do i do?

Hello i have been dating for two years now.I cheated on my boyfriend exactly an year ago from today because when we started out i wasnt serious about the relationship.Now i am deeply inlove with him he claimed he forgave me but whenever he meets the guy i cheated on him with he falls into memory phase and gets angry and keeps quiet whenever we spend time.We are currently planning a wedding but am afraid and i dont know what to do now to help him heal since am inlove with him and i have been faithful ever since.