What do i do?

Hello i have been dating for two years now.I cheated on my boyfriend exactly an year ago from today because when we started out i wasnt serious about the relationship.Now i am deeply inlove with him he claimed he forgave me but whenever he meets the guy i cheated on him with he falls into memory phase and gets angry and keeps quiet whenever we spend time.We are currently planning a wedding but am afraid and i dont know what to do now to help him heal since am inlove with him and i have been faithful ever since.

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7 thoughts on “What do i do?

  1. resullins says:

    [This ins’t a relationship that should be heading towards marriage at this point. Because no matter what he says, he hasn’t forgiven you. His actions speak LOUDLY to that. And if he hasn’t forgiven you, this is going to turn into a marriage of ultimatums and guilt. And that’s no way to love someone.

    Also, why are you hanging out with the guy that you cheated with? That just sounds like a recipe for disaster. If he’s a mutual friend, and you CAN’T stop hanging out with him, then he’s always going to be a problem. No matter what you or your boyfriend does… he’s going to be like the piece of popcorn you can’t get out of your teeth.

    Lastly, I think you and your boyfriend BOTH need to take a step back and reevaluate this relationship. You need to take a break, and figure out (individually) if you really want to be together forever. That’s a huge step, and I think you’re rushing into it out of guilt? Fear of losing him? Fear of being alone? None of those are valid reasons to stay in a relationship.

    Reevaluate. Get some space and some perspective.

  2. Dennis Hong says:

    [What res said. Why exactly does your fiance still have a chance to “meet” this guy? If this relationship means anything to you, then my suggestion is to cut off contact with this other guy. You broke his trust, so now you kind of owe it to him to demonstrate that he does matter to you.

    • Matt Sanchelli says:

      [That was the question I was asking myself too; under what circumstances is he meeting this guy you cheated on him with?

      Are you still in contact with the guy? Are you friends? Work together?

      Ultimately, put yourself in his shoes – if he cheated on you, and despite him feeling 100% regret and promising never to cheat again; you have to admit you’d get angry/upset/sad every time you saw her.

  3. Anonymous Blurb Author says:

    Hello i have been dating for two years now.I cheated on my boyfriend exactly an year ago from today because when we started out i wasnt serious about the relationship.Now i am deeply inlove with him he claimed he forgave me but whenever he meets the guy i cheated on him with he falls into memory phase and gets angry and keeps quiet whenever we spend time.We are currently planning a wedding but am afraid and i dont know what to do now to help him heal since am inlove with him and i have been faithful ever since

    • Shepkatt says:

      [Hi there.. the only thing you can really do is to not cheat again and make sure that you don’t do anything that might make him think you’re cheating. If seeing that guy is a trigger for him – you just need to let him work it out. Sounds like he has forgiven you – but you can’t ever really forget.

  4. Anonymous Blurb Author says:

    the reason we still meet this guy is because hes is a neighbor..not so close but within same area.

    • resullins says:

      Well, then I think all of the above advice stands. It’s time to reevaluate this entire situation.

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