I started talking to this guy from my college like one and a half months ago, I barely knew him and never ever talked to him before, but it felt great texting and talking to him online. The very first day we kept talking for long and had even assigned ‘bye signs’ for each other on fb. He is an introvert and I was the only girl he talked to for so long.
The first month, since we were home, we only talked on social media. And then I met him and he was absolutely different than the person I used to text, he was definitely more closed, didn’t talk much. We met again, like 5 times now, and he is more okay with me now, is a little less weird. I like him a lot, he is my buddy, I like talking to him a lot. Now, I have reached a stage where I miss him if we have not talked for like 2-3 hours. I want to talk to him. Every morning I wake up thinking of him and message him first and he is the one I say goodnight before I sleep. And it has just been 40 days of talking. But I know for sure that he is not the guy I want to date.
Can anybody tell me what’s going on? Is it okay, to care for someone so much, want to talk to someone, expect and blush when they compliment you, want to go out with them but still want to be just friends?
2 thoughts on ““I think I want to be more than friends””
I think you have a crush on potentially what he could be. If you are waiting or hoping he’ll change then you will wait forever. If you are ok with what he is now then congrats.
I think you are confusing sexual awkwardness with “the friend zone”. It takes several sexual incounters over a period of time to overcome sexual awkwardness. If a girl gives some head to a guy, and she gets wet then you can overcome the awkwardness. Just because you’re not attracted to him yet doesn’t mean you can overcome the awkwardness of it.