My boyfriend and I of 6 years have broken up and have been broken up for almost 2 weeks now. We’ve been dating since high school. Ever since we’ve broken up, not much has changed. We still see each other everyday, he’s still on my phone plan (we have a great rate) and are pretty much on this break to work on being better so we have a stronger relationship once/if we get back together.
Yesterday, he kept telling me that he loves me and that I’m his best friend and that more likely than not, we’ll be together in the end. I felt that he brought it up kind of randomly and that there was something peculiar about what he was saying. With lack of better judgement, I look at his phone records and it says that he’s been texting someone.
He had been texting this person since 8am all way until 12 at night. This morning I confronted him about this just to see where we stand and if he is moving on to someone else. He says that they they are “just talking” and they are “just friends”. In the last six years he has never had any female friends, he works a retail job for his parents and only has 2 coworkers that he always complains about. I even looked up her name and the area that this girl lives in, which is not in our local area. He says that he loves me and just me and cares about just me and that he’s only interested in investing his time in me.
I find it kind of hard to believe that I’m the only one, when he texts somebody else 15 hours a day. He says it’s not going anywhere. And today he even texted her at like 6.30 in the morning.
Should I trust what he tells me? I feel that his actions/reactions are not adding up. Is it really that likely that if a guy and girl were texting for 8am-past midnight were not interested in each other? For those of you who are familiar with the show Friends, I am Team Ross. I don’t think my ex is doing anything wrong by texting her, but I don’t believe that he has feelings for just me as he is trying to lead me to believe. I am looking forward to hearing advice from outside parties. Please indicate if you are a male or female so I can understand your perspective. Thanks.
2 thoughts on ““My boyfriend of 6 years is texting another girl””
Your EX boyfriend is trying to deal with something that hurts him.
Yes, I think he still cares for you.
Yes, he may be trying to use this girl as a rebound, since you don’t seem to want him back. Look, this relationship is over and all you two will do now is drag out the pain. Cut him off all social media and your phone plan and stop stalking him or letting him stalk you. Time for you both to heal and move on. Tell him you need some space from him before you can even be friends again (if you want to that is – you don’t have to be friends with him at all) then spend some time not dating. Just healing and finding yourself again. Good luck internet friend. internet hugs
That is what people do when they are on break. They go see other people and talk to other people. Trust that what he says is true and that she is just a friend. If you can’t, then you probably shouldn’t get back together after this “break.”