I am a 29 year old medical student. Doing well academically, but this year has been hard. You see, after my sister passed away in 2013, I withdrew from medical school for some time, to take care of my parents. I eventually gave up. But I later realized I still want to do it, I made a promise to my sister I’d get back in it.
In the mean time I met this girl, things were decent, we had our differences, but it worked. She wasn’t career oriented, I was, and I eventually got back into medical school. I was doing very well, till the doctors told me I needed open heart surgery. Fast forward this year, I was told I needed to take medical leave, fly out to get my surgery done, and my ex fiancee told me “she can’t call me, not even for 5 min, she needs a break, that you have too many issues, first medical school and now health issues”. I mean this is the same person who wanted to return the engagement ring I got her, only 2 weeks after getting it, because she wanted something a “bit more”.
Insecurity ran deep in her, in that she wanted to have something of her own, because she didn’t have a career. I know I am not perfect, my career meant the world to me. I made a promise to my sister, but after having surgery this year, although it went well, I am having a hard time getting over her. I have relapses, thinking, wow I have straight A’s in medical school now, I wish she was around to see this. I got elected class president and yet I feel a bit empty.