I’ve been sharing a bed with, and pretty much living in my new girlfriend’s apartment for our entire relationship.
A little background on us before I explain the rest: I’m 20 and she’s 23, we work at the same place and have the same shift with different days off. She doesn’t go to school or have a degree, and I’m currently a full time student at an online university. We have a ton in common as far as our interests, likes, dislikes, and hobbies go. Really the only other thing worth mentioning maybe, is that she has a 3 year old and shares joint custody with her ex boyfriend, but that doesn’t really bother me at all.
Anyways, I feel like I need some advice…We were unofficially together for like a week and a half before I started staying here every night, but it wasn’t ‘official’ until last month. I came over to her place for Chinese food and a movie, and I’ve been home like twice since then. I’m really not sure how to feel about this or if this is even okay, considering the very short amount of time involved. We already know each other really well because there’s nothing to do but talk, or watch TV at her place. Because of that, we’ve spent nearly every day for the last two weeks talking about everything you can imagine (hell, she started telling me about how she eventually wants another kid. I killed that conversation because it made me a little uncomfortable…)
Here’s what’s got me tripping over this and making me wonder if I should just go back home and maybe come over like 3 nights a week or something like that:
On one hand, she’s stated on multiple occasions that she doesn’t mind me being here and has asked me to stay on some nights where I was going to go home, so it’s not like I’m imposing or anything. I’ve even asked her directly a few times if she thinks it’s a bit excessive that I’ve been here 3/7/10 days, and her response is always “No, I enjoy your company and you can come over here whenever you like.”
On the other hand, isn’t this all a bit fast? I mean the first time I actually started getting to know her was last month. 3 weeks later we’re officially in a relationship, and I basically move in to her place. I don’t feel uncomfortable here in any way, but I kind of wonder if I’m just being blinded by something that’s keeping me from seeing why this is a bad idea.