“My fiance thinks I’m putting him down”

My fiance and I have been together 5 years, we also live together. He works in flooring, and makes great money.  I am a dental assistant, and soon to be registered nurse. In November 2016 he was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and lymphatic cancer.

I don’t want to sound overly confident, but the health field is my thing, I know a lot about it, and I read tons daily, and I have a pretty good understanding about the human body, anatomy and physiology.  Ever since I decided to go back to school to become a RN, I felt my fiance started getting intimidated by my knowledge. Continue reading

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“My fiance has dick pics on his phone”

My fiance keeps going on dating sites. He knows I don’t like Snapchat (because he’s used it to online cheat before).  But I found it downloaded onto his phone again. So I snooped. I’ve found dick pics, pictures of girls, and online dating sites.

We’ve been dating for 4 years and live together. We made a family with all our animals. Our whole lives are financially and physically mashed together. I have no idea what do. Any advice for my sorry ass of a life?

“Should I let my fiance have sex with another woman?

Should I let him have another woman, just for sex? I have been with my fiancé on and off for over 10 years, and it’s been a solid relationship for the past 2 years. But, for the past 6 months, I just don’t care about sex anymore. I don’t desire it from anyone at all.

I’m still attracted to my fiancé, and I love him. But, I find no benefit from it. Some info to note, I have depression, hypothyroidism, am 4 months pregnant, and I’ve never had an orgasm during sex. I’ve accepted the fact that I never will. Although, even satisfying masturbation seldom sparks my interest. Continue reading

My fiancé and I have fallen into a friendship”

I have been with my fiancé for over 7 years. In the beginning, we were madly in love and inseparable. As the years have gone by, I feel like we have fallen into a friendship. I do not ever want to hurt him. I have spoken to him about this before, and he became very upset and didn’t really understand it.

I am finding other people attractive and find myself fantasizing about other men. Recently my ex has come back into my life and has told me he loves me. I have always loved him, but I was hurt so much that I closed that all off. I don’t know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?

“I’m in a one-sided relationship”

I have been with my boyfriend, now fiancé, for 5 years. As the years have gone by, I am starting to realize that I end up doing everything for him, and I feel like he has turned me into his mother.

He doesn’t have a job and I am working full time and when I get home from work hardly anything has been done and he is playing games. Then he expects me to cook him dinner because he hasn’t eaten all day while I was gone. He also expects me to make all the important decisions,  then gets so mad at me to the point I am frightened of him, when I don’t tell him when I do something.

What should I do? I feel so exhausted and broken all the time. I’ve asked him to change or at least try harder to do a few things to help out around the house, but he hasn’t. And every time I think of leaving or try to pull away he gets really sweet and caring and then goes right back to the way he was.

“I’m scared my health problems are pushing him away”

I’ve been with my fiancé for over 4 years. In the first year of our relationship, he went behind my back with his ex. He also cheated on me with her again (and briefly left me for her) in the winter of 2015 and February 2016. He also cheated on me with and left me for a girl he worked with a couple of years ago for a month. However, we have been together for the majority of the last 4 1/2 years.

I cut him off last year, because I had had enough and didn’t want to be his backup or just-in-case anymore. He would never open up to me. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative and always kept me hanging on while still talking to other girls. Continue reading

“My mom gets mad at me for yelling at my boyfriend”

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. Our anniversary is the end of February. We have had some major problems, I have bipolar disorder and used to get really mad and even yell at him over stupid shit. I wouldn’t call it abuse, but it definitely wasn’t nice. He stole money from a friend’s grandmother. His friend not mine. He got mad over a Facebook post and left for four days and wouldn’t tell me where he went. He told me 6 months later that he cheated on me.

That was a year ago. I stayed because I love him and I honestly feel that he will try to be better and so far he has. He has been honest with me this far. He told me the night he stole the money, he told me about cheating. I never had to find anything out from someone other than him. It’s been a rocky road. I want to marry him despite all of the stuff I just wrote. I love him and I trust that he is doing all he can to be a better person. Continue reading

“My fiancé has no sex drive”

Me and my fiancée have been together for about three years. We are still madly in love and everything is going well, except the sex. About a year-and-a-half ago, we started having sex less and it’s just decreased until the sex is now non-existent. He insists it’s nothing to do with me and he still tells me I’m beautiful and compliments me. I’ve tried talking to him so many times in so many different ways, but he just makes up different excuses all the time. He acknowledges that the sex has stopped and says he misses it, but then doesn’t do anything about it. I’ve tried coming onto him and he just turns me down. I don’t want to have to end the relationship, as I love him, we’re engaged and own a house together, but, how can I go on like this? Eventually it will take its toll and I’m starting to think about having sex with other men. I’d never cheat on him but the fact I’m thinking about it is bad enough.

“My fiance is still seeing his ex-wife”

We’re sitting here talking, and he’s texting her. He doesn’t think I know, but I do. He changes her name to the person he is talking about or “talking to” the most that day and acts like the conversation is still going on.

She is his “ex”-wife (and I use that term loosely), and I am his fiancee. He has told me stories of how horrible she was to him, and how she “bamboozled” him into marriage. Yet he still talks to her. I know a woman’s intuition is usually spot on, but not only do I have that “gut feeling,” I have the proof to back it up. I know what time he actually gets off work, but he doesn’t know I am aware of the time.

H stays with me every night and talks to me all day long, but I know when he is talking from work, and talking when he is with her. We have dubbed the day I found out about him being married (we have been together for over a year — again — now, and this is a recent issue from August) to be called “D-day.”  He has “walked away” from everything he owns and knows, and I know that he hasn’t. Continue reading