“I can’t find a meaningful relationship”

I’m an 18 year old freshman in college. I’m from India and I study at a university in the United States of America. I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m pretty depressed when I see other couples because I’d do anything to have a meaningful relationship.

I like to think I am a good looking guy (that’s what many friends, both guys and girls told me). I’m pretty funny and I believe I’m a nice guy. I care for everyone close to me and I love to help people in need. I’m pretty outgoing and I can literally talk about anything. I never bore people and every friend I make gets close to me in a few weeks.

I feel lonely even when with friends and I get depressed when I think about me not finding love or having a relationship. I’ve moved to the US only recently but I already made a ton of friends who are of Caucasian, African American, Asian and Hispanic origins. I would say I have no problem in talking to strangers and I can’t understand why I don’t have a girlfriend. I have no other mental problems and I’m sure no one thinks I’m weird haha. I talk to a few of my close friends about how I’m struggling in finding a girlfriend and venting helps me be okay. I’m about 6 feet tall and I’m not fat nor do I have abs.

The problem in short is I can’t seem to find love or a relationship and I’d be thankful for any advice you guys can give me. If you guys can think of any other reason why I can’t find a relationship, please let me know. Thank you 🙂

“I don’t know if she is there for me or not?”

I have this friend who I’ve known since first grade. At first we weren’t that close but since I started losing people left and right, she’s been all I’ve had and I love her like a sister and appreciate her being there through everything.

As the years have gone on, I’ve noticed a change. It’s weird because it’s never a constant thing, it’s always changing, but basically she goes through these phases where one minute I’m her bestie then the next she appears to act like I’m an annoyance that she has to keep up with. Continue reading

“My boyfriend won’t sleep with me”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about four months now, and recently I feel like he doesn’t find me attractive anymore. When I come home (we live in an apartment together,) I give him a hug and kiss but he won’t respond with the same level of affection.

When we’re in public I wrap my arm around his since he doesn’t grab my hand. And we’re living together, we share a bed in our room but he’s been sleeping in the living room for the past month. He says he can’t stand sleeping there because of my cat’s litter box and he can get sick (he has Crohn’s). I’m ok with that but he’s given me no solution to fix it. Continue reading

“Shall I tell my ex about my side chick?”

I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago. It’s been two weeks with no contact, but long story short, I lied, strayed and hid stuff from her due to pressure from Uni, financial issues, and depression.

By strayed, I mean I did stuff I did not usually do, including have a ‘side chick’ who had no idea about me and my girlfriend being together.

My girlfriend found out about another incident where I drunkenly messaged an old flame and this old flame sent my message to my girlfriend who found out about it months later.
Basically, I became a guild-ridden self-loathing individual and she didn’t recognize me. She still says she loves me, just not the way she used to, and yet, she hoped I would change.

I’m trying to change now, trying to be better and fight this depression, but now my girlfriend and me have broken up…should I even bother telling her about the side chick? Or should I tell the side chick that I lied to her? Or should I just move on from the side chick and hope for the best?

If I want even the smallest bit of reconciliation with my ex, I don’t want this to pop up and hurt her in the future. I’m done with the lies, but is there a point to hurt her unnecessarily?

Please help.

“Should I cut her out of my life entirely?”

I’ve been working with this girl for about half a year. The first week we both started, I introduced myself, as I did to everyone else I didn’t know. She came up to me later and started a conversation with me. Asking what I liked to do, I told her I was into hiking and some other stuff. She was quick to ask when I was going next and with who, and asked that I hit her up and bring her. Continue reading

“I’m depressed with my home situation”

I am 30 and I have been with my girlfriend who’s 26, for 7 years and we are engaged. We have a 4 year old chocolate labrador and live with my girlfriend’s brother and their mum in her house.

It is very stressful living here, my girlfriend’s mum is very opinionated and suffers from mental instability. She is on antidepressants and is very hot and cold with her emotions. My girlfriend is studying animal conservation at University and her brother works part time at a farm. Their mum works at a school full time. I work full time as a security manager. I know this is all over the place but it’s hard to think what I want to say so thanks for bearing with me.

There are constant arguments over all sorts of things. I argue with my girlfriend’s mum, which I hate, as I’m living under her roof so it feels majorly awkward. My girlfriend’s brother hardly works any hours so gets hardly any money which makes matters worse as he doesn’t pay his way at all. My girlfriend’s mum wants my girlfriend and I to pay for his share of bills,  but I think it’s unfair as he makes no effort to get a full time job. He’s very picky about where he will work. We can’t move out because I am in some debt and can’t afford to rent a house big enough for the 2 of us and our dog.  My girlfriend only gets student loan money which is soon to stop as she graduates this year so she can’t pay towards it.

I get massively depressed and sometimes feel like I need to leave the situation, break off the engagement and get out, but I can’t. We have been together through a lot and I love my girlfriend too much to quit on her. I worry that she will never find a job and will just end up working a crap job and we won’t be able to afford to move out. We want to start our life together and have a family but it really feels like it will never happen. What shall I do?

“I’m transgender and scared to tell my family”

I really have come to a point where I’m sure I’m either transgender or non-binary. I know I will never come out, or transition because my parents and sister always talk about how disgusting they are.

It would be easy if they were a terrible family, but they are loving to me. They always tell me they love me, and I really love them with all my heart as well. I don’t want them to ever look at me differently. It’s really depressing to know that I can never tell them. I don’t know if I should risk everything and let them know – or just keep it under wraps…

“I’m dealing with family grief and cheating”

A couple months ago, my grandmother and aunt died in a car accident. My mother was devastated, seeing as losing your mom and sister is really rough. Although I have mostly accepted it and moved on, my mom hasn’t really. She is definitely an emotional person and I don’t expect her grief to last forever, but it worries me how much she cries when she thinks no one is looking or is in a depressed mood.

My dad has not been much of a source for support to her either. He was kind to her at first but now he mostly keeps to himself. They have been married for 20 years but recently, my mom found out that he was cyber cheating on her for sixteen months. I have no idea what to do in this situation, the tension in our home is so high and I hate to see the situation breaking my mother like this. Please help.