My boyfriend got me pregnant three months ago and ever since we’ve found out, he’s practically stopped talking to me. He doesn’t want me to tell anyone about it, or even talk to him about it, and I don’t know what to do, because we’re running out of time and I want to keep it.
He’s slowly becoming more distant and people have repeatedly been telling him he should break up with me (they don’t know about the baby). I was panicking one night after we had a fight and didn’t know where to go – I messaged one of our mutual friends, (call him m) to look for advice. He helped me so much and ever since, him and I have been getting closer. I’m scared because I’m getting feelings for him, and losing them for my boyfriend. M and I have been talking a lot lately and I doubt he has any feelings for me at all, but I can’t help it. I feel like I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. I just want to do what’s right for the baby and I don’t know if that would be me staying with it’s biological father, or me being with someone who actually wants it and cares about the both of us.
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Deep breath first. You and the baby are going to be ok.
First get your legal ducks in a row, because this baby’s father doesn’t want to be with you and doesn’t want to be a father. Make sure you get child support. Then, stop worrying about dating for a while. You will not be able to take care of a baby and deal with the drama of a relationship. You need to focus on rearing that child and a revolving door of men won’t be the way. Don’t do that to the child. Don’t even think about introducing a man until you are 6 months along into a relationship. You need to do what’s best for your baby.
Tell your parents or any family member that will help. You’re going to need it. Good luck new mama. You can do this.