I just feel like my boyfriend doesn’t listen to me. We have been together 3 years and sometimes I feel like he just doesn’t listen. His best friend is constantly getting too friendly, if you understand what I’m saying, and I try to tell my bf about it and he just thinks it’s all a joke and doesn’t take me seriously.
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“He’s always on my mind but I don’t want to be heartbroken”
This is going to start off cheesy but please keep reading cuz I don’t know what to do… So I’ve never had a boyfriend before but I have been asked out many times. Here’s the thing though, I always decline. Even if it is someone I like. I think it might be because there are only two options for how a relationship will end up, it will either end in heartbreak or you will grow up and eventually get married and have kids together.
]But usually, at my age (14) the relationship will end with the first option, heartbreak. I’m scared that if I end up in a relationship with someone I really like, that it will not last and that I will have my heart broken. Heartbreak is probably one of my greatest fears.
Now, I have this crush on a boy who has been one of my best friends since we were 9. And I’m pretty sure he likes me too but he moved two years ago and lives about an hour away from where I am. I really like him and he’s always on my mind but I feel like if we end up together it won’t last because we live so far apart. And now I’m scared again because I don’t want to feel the pain that so many people have felt. I don’t want to be heartbroken. Can someone please help me or give me some kind of advice on what to do with this situation?
“Does he just love the idea of me?”
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years and we do everything together. He encourages me often, is very thoughtful and loves to spoil me. But sometimes I feel like he loves the idea of me and what I do for him, rather than for who I am. He tells me that he loves my personality and compliments me often, but seems preoccupied most of the time when I’m talking to him, and isn’t thrilled about hanging out with my family.
Sometimes I feel like he loves me because we do so many of the things that he loves, and spend time with his family a lot, rather than the things on my side.
The beginning of our relationship was a little rocky, and we fought often. He had a job that he hated and tended to be pretty selfish at times. I know he can be immature at times and that some of my family and friends aren’t crazy about him, but he is my best friend and I’m crazy about him.
What do I do?
“My partner doesn’t love me anymore”
My partner of 6 years has recently told me he no longer finds me attractive and doesn’t love me anymore. He says he wants to work on things and get back to what we used to be. This took me completely by surprise, I had no idea, and thought we were really happy.
Now he keeps going on about my weight and saying I should exercise more and try weightloss shakes. Im 170cm and weigh 85kg and gained most of that when I had our baby last year.
He says he still doesn’t know what he wants (whether to stay or break up) and doesn’t want to make the wrong decision and regret it. I’m stuck on what to do or think at this stage. I have told him he needs go make a decision asap because its not fair to me or my son.
Anyone been in this kind of situation before and what did you do and how did it work out?
“He doesn’t show that he loves me like he did before”
Hello. First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope I get advice from you. This is my first time asking for advice online and I feel like I can get the answers that I need in here. About my problem, I’m so confused if whether my boyfriend truly loves me or not. Well, he is handsome (he knows that obviously), smart, affectionate (which I like the best), and caring (at the start of the relationship yes, but now not so much).
We’d been in a relationship for 1 year and 3 months. I make twice his income (but I’m not that bothered about that). I already met his parents a lot of times and vice versa. He drives me to my work everyday which is 40 mins away from home using his motorcycle. Actually half of the money to pay for the motorcycle is from me. He treats me snacks or lunch or dinner and vice versa. He’s really sweet when we’re alone. I love it when he hugs me. Continue reading
“He hasn’t spoken to me since I moved home”
I met my boyfriend on an online game and we live in 2 different states. I lived with him for 2 and a half months, but unable to get a job to stay with him in his state, and eventually moved back home.
While I was with him we got into a pretty big fight (I was waaayy too drunk and don’t really remember it, sadly) but we slowly solved the problems and I completely got over it. A month goes by, no fighting or anything but he isn’t as loving towards me as he used to be. No intimacy at all. It felt like I was living with a friend. But he says repeatedly that he is over it, it is irrelevant, etc.
About 2 or 3 weeks later he takes me to the airport and I fly home. It has now been 2 weeks that I have been home and I haven’t spoken to him. I text and call him, maybe every couple of days and he will never return my call or text back. He is my second love but I love him more than I loved my first. I know I could be overreacting and that I jumped around in my story a lot. I’ve lost way too much sleep over this and it hurts, I’ve been trying since I was with him to mend our relationship and fix what I broke in the fight we had, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him. Any help is appreciated.
“He’s an alcoholic and I feel like his mother”
My boyfriend is a depressed, functioning, alcoholic.
We’ve been dating for a year and a half, at about 6 months into our relationship I found out about his drinking & progressively after that more and more was revealed. He drinks alone when his depression gets heavy (1-2 times per month). He’s never violent or angry, just emotional and the drinking upsets him more. He does tend to call me in the middle of the night as he is wandering drunk around NYC at 3am and begs me to let him stay over (I oblige because I worry).
He lost his job (not because of alcohol) but it’s factored into his depression. He doesn’t seem interested in working again but he is going to therapy (on my insurance).
I don’t want to leave him but I feel like I’ve had to put my life on hold to take care of him (emotionally and financially). I’m starting to feel more like a mother than a girlfriend. I’m in my early 30s, never married, and want a future with him, but it seems like he’ll never get to a place to think about the future. Everything is just dealing with him right now.
I don’t know what to do.
“I love him, but he’s lazy with no ambition”
Hello, first time here. My boyfriend and I are both 21, dating for a little over 2 years now. I am in school and have future goals, while working part time and freelancing for myself. On the other hand, my boyfriend has been jobless for over a year now, not in school and lacks motivation and ambition.
I love him very, very much, but this is really starting to bug me as I think it would for anyone. I just do not know what to do anymore, we have talked about it many times and have gotten into arguments about it as well because he gets annoyed or defensive. Continue reading
“He’s talking marriage but I just don’t trust him”
I need some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together a total of almost a year and a half and just a few months ago he had “out of no where” broke up with me for about a month . It all started when his phone lit up and he received a text from a girl talking about what each of them like to do (like go hiking). They seemed to be talking about things in order to get to know each other.
I am all about having friends so I have never really went too far into anything , but this struck me as a little odd, so I confronted him and asked him to see the texts and he promptly said “no”, put his phone away and turned it around on me and exclaimed that if I trusted him I wouldn’t be asking him about it. Continue reading
“My best friend hates my boyfriend”
One of my best girl friends has started acting a bit suspicious when it comes to getting together with others. It’s starting to feel like she is tactfully excluding my boyfriend and I’m wondering who is in the wrong and how to address this situation.
Let me start off by saying, I love a girls night! I’m perfectly content ditching our boyfriends, fiances, and husbands for a night just us girls. This is not the issue. The problem is other times, when we are all going out (brunch at a restaurant, drinks at a bar, a get together at a mutual friend’s house) where there will be people of both genders, she makes it a point to exclude my boyfriend. I’m not sure how it affects her if my boyfriend is there or not. Let me give some examples:
Brunch with a group of friends, she told me “no boyfriends allowed” per one of the men attending’s request. I found this odd and decided not to go. Funny thing is, we actually ended up meeting the said man before the brunch and he asked why we weren’t joining them.
A bunch of our friends are all getting drinks at an outdoor bar this weekend, there is a Facebook event for it. She invited me and the other girls in our friend group but none of our boyfriends, even though they are friends with a lot of the people attending.
There have been many situations like these and it doesn’t seem to be just my boyfriend she excludes, 2 of my other girl friends have boyfriends as well and she excludes them the same.
My question is, if other guys are going to be at these events, why is it an issue if we bring our SOs? These are public places and they have every right to be there. I don’t really understand how our partner’s presence affects her, besides the fact that we aren’t available to make small talk with other men, who think we’re single.
Are we both in the wrong? Or just one of us? Is there something I should do to address this moving forward?
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