Hello, first time here. My boyfriend and I are both 21, dating for a little over 2 years now. I am in school and have future goals, while working part time and freelancing for myself. On the other hand, my boyfriend has been jobless for over a year now, not in school and lacks motivation and ambition.
I love him very, very much, but this is really starting to bug me as I think it would for anyone. I just do not know what to do anymore, we have talked about it many times and have gotten into arguments about it as well because he gets annoyed or defensive. He just does nothing all day, he has no idea what he wants to do with his life (which is fine, I understand) but does not give him a reason to just sit around everyday doing thing and waiting for someone to hand him a job that will provide him for the rest of his life that he will enjoy. He just wants it to come easy to him, even besides the fact that he knows how hard it is nowadays to get a job, so I just don’t get it.
I tried looking at job options for him or trade school options or even counseling but nothing seems to give him any interest at all, I don’t even know how is he supporting himself without making any money, sitting around all day while I’m working part time and going to school trying to get a degree and achieving for myself.
He claims he knows hundreds of times when I bring all this up and claims he will get his stuff together but it is now been a year that passed by. What do I do? How can I help him? How much longer do I have to wait around for him to actually do something and have ambition? Or is he just a generally lazy person who will never be the person to work hard? It is just so frustrating to watch even if I know how hard it can be, and I love him so dearly and we live with our parents still so it’s not a breaking point but at the same time if more years pass by and I don’t see him being a very driven person maybe it will be.
Please help, advice, anything.