Hello. First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope I get advice from you. This is my first time asking for advice online and I feel like I can get the answers that I need in here. About my problem, I’m so confused if whether my boyfriend truly loves me or not. Well, he is handsome (he knows that obviously), smart, affectionate (which I like the best), and caring (at the start of the relationship yes, but now not so much).
We’d been in a relationship for 1 year and 3 months. I make twice his income (but I’m not that bothered about that). I already met his parents a lot of times and vice versa. He drives me to my work everyday which is 40 mins away from home using his motorcycle. Actually half of the money to pay for the motorcycle is from me. He treats me snacks or lunch or dinner and vice versa. He’s really sweet when we’re alone. I love it when he hugs me. But what’s bothering me about him is that he doesn’t plan anything for me like what he used to do before. I asked him about it and he said that sometimes if we have plans it just gets cancelled so it’s better if I tell him myself that I’m free and we can go out. But I’m disappointed that he doesn’t makes any plans, like telling me that he wants to go to the beach with me, or he wants to visit that place with me. But then there are times where the two of us are just sitting there saying nothing to each other except him asking what time it is. Like he’s bored with me or something.
I tried to confront him about this and we did talk, but it ended him telling me that I’m the one thinking too much. He says he has problems and that I’m adding to his problems. He didn’t resolve our conflict and I’m very much hurt because of this. I don’t know if it’s me or I’m just feeling something is wrong.