My partner of 6 years has recently told me he no longer finds me attractive and doesn’t love me anymore. He says he wants to work on things and get back to what we used to be. This took me completely by surprise, I had no idea, and thought we were really happy.
Now he keeps going on about my weight and saying I should exercise more and try weightloss shakes. Im 170cm and weigh 85kg and gained most of that when I had our baby last year.
He says he still doesn’t know what he wants (whether to stay or break up) and doesn’t want to make the wrong decision and regret it. I’m stuck on what to do or think at this stage. I have told him he needs go make a decision asap because its not fair to me or my son.
Anyone been in this kind of situation before and what did you do and how did it work out?
LemonVibe 
Oh and he doesn’t think he’ll gain weight? Look the problem isn’t your weight really. The problem is HIM. Do YOU want to stay with a man who isn’t attracted to you? There is a whole world of people who would be attracted to you at your present weight. I bet he didn’t count on how much effort it would honestly take to raise a child at all. Make sure you talk to a lawyer and get child support. I’m sorry you and your son are going through this, but it’s much better to do it now than have him stay and be a resentful jerk the rest of your lives and make you and your son unhappy.
Your job right now mama is to protect yourself and your son.