Tag: boyfriend

“I’m ready to leave him, but can’t get past the guilt”

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I want to leave my boyfriend of five years, with whom I have two kids. I have known the relationship has been over for two years now, but have stayed despite my many attempts to leave, because it’s … just easier. It’s easier to stay where I know how things are than to venture into the unknown. It’s easier to just deal than to break someone’s heart. It’s easier than dealing with all of the stress that comes with being alone.

Given it’s a unique situation for me, as I don’t have a car and have been relying on my boyfriend to get me around. I have been put in a very dependent situation with him, and I feel that is why it is the way it is.

The past year I have gotten an amazing job. I make great money, and I can afford to take care of myself and my children and then some. I’ll be buying a car this next week, and I’ll be independent once again. But I’m sort of holding out on telling him what is going on in my mind. I don’t know why he has been holding on. I’m sure he is as dependent on me as I am on him, in a financial way though. Continue reading →

“Does my boyfriend watch too much porn?”

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Is it normal that my boyfriend watches porn, usually in the morning in the shower while I’m asleep? We have been together for a little under a year. Just recently I have found out that he watches it, even after he and I have had sex before sleeping — sometimes three times a day. I tried to talk to him about it, and he says it’s nothing or just doesn’t want to talk about it. He says it’s normal.

I understand that watching porn and masturbating are normal and should not affect the relationship. But with him, it’s constant. I feel like I’m not enough, not pretty enough to meet whatever needs he has in watching porn. In my last relationship, my ex-boyfriend was not like this, so I know not all men are this way. I also catch him looking at other women when we go out. Any bit of advice would help. Thank you.

“He sleeps until 2 pm every day”

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Please help settle this tiff between this couple:

Chloe says:

We moved in together three years ago. We sleep at the same time every night, but the next day I wake up at 9:00 or so, and he sleeps in until 2:00 pm. I’ve already cleaned, fed our pets, attempted to fix him breakfast, and waited for him to wake. I’ve tried waking him up earlier, but he just rolls over and sleeps more. We’ve fought many times over this, but he just refuses to wake up at a decent hour, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t like being alone for so long and doing it all by myself.

Jon says:

Yeah I sleep in, but only because I’m tired. I try waking up sometimes, but I’m not perfect, ya know? I don’t get why its such a big deal.

 

“He keeps wanting to wait on getting married”

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My boyfriend and I have been together going on three years. We started living together after knowing each other for eight months and after officially dating for only one month. We have a one-year-old daughter and recently (two weeks ago) found out that we are expecting our second child. I love him and from the time I met him have been pretty deeply in love. We live well together, but we do obviously have our share of arguments.

We had previously talked about being married and he led me to believe that we were on the same page. To the point that we had engagement rings for one another. We later had some issues come up involving him talking to other people and we stopped wearing our rings. Now that we are supposed to be going to counseling and working on things, he sees marriage for him in another 5-6 years.

I personally don’t think it takes that long to decide if you want someone. Especially considering our circumstances — we live together, sleep together, share all of our finances, and have children. I take care of our home, child, and I cater to him all that I can. He didn’t decide to wait on anything else, so why does he want to wait on marriage? Continue reading →

“I feel completely alone right now”

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I feel completely alone right now. I love my boyfriend deeply, but, recently, I found him texting another girl after a night out. He’s cheated before, but, foolishly, I forgave him. He says he’s sorry, but, I just don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand what I did wrong for him to cheat on me. And now every time that he leaves to a friend’s or his cousin’s house, and I think he’s cheating. I’m completely lost on what I should do.

“I apologize for things that aren’t my fault”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years. I am always the fixer, which means whether it’s my fault or his, I go to him first to fix any problems we have. Always. He hardly apologizes when he’s wrong and I apologize too much when it’s not my fault.

Tonight, we went out for some drinks and took an Uber. On our way back to the house, we accidentally got in the wrong Uber. The driver asked for his name, he said his name and confirmed. We hopped in. I guess the driver didn’t hear the name correctly. Almost home, we realized this mistake; the driver was a total asshole, and said pay cash or get out. Neither of us had cash so we got out. We made a report to Uber since we were stranded at midnight on the side of the road. We called another and finally made it. Immediately he placed a complaint with Uber. He said he wanted to file a police report and say the Uber driver was drunk driving or speeding and driving recklessly. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend recorded secret videos of all his exes”

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I recently was going through my boyfriend’s external hard drive (we’ve been together for 5 years on and off). I first found a bunch of videos and pictures of all of his exes he had kept. I then found a few he recorded of them that they obviously didn’t know were being filmed.

It made me stick to my stomach. I dug a little more and found a video where he had done the same thing to me. I made copies of everything and deleted them off his external drive. He now knows I know everything and is trying to apologize and make it up to me.

When he did it, it was at the beginning of our relationship, and he swears he would never do it again. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if all the tears and trying to kiss my ass are because he truly gets how upset and disgusted I am (it’s to the point that things trigger me and I can’t stop shaking and crying), or if he is really just trying to make things right, because he knows I can turn him in to the police. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend won’t text me photos when he’s out with his friends”

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My boyfriend goes out to his friend’s house almost every weekend. That’s okay to me.  Previously (ages ago) I asked him to take a photo at their place, and he did, very reluctantly.

Yesterday he went out again, and I asked him to take a photo for me, and he completely refused and ignored me straight afterwards.

He came back today, and I asked him why he refused. After a while he snapped and said, “Then do you want me to just message you 24/7? Just take random pictures while I’m chilling with my friends just for you?” Continue reading →

“Is he still into his ex?”

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Does he still have feelings for his ex? The first year we went out, he never really liked any pictures of me on social media, nor did he post anything. He told me he wasn’t much of a social media person, and I believed him. After having some doubts later on, I looked through his phone (I know that was bad), and saw that he liked two pictures of his ex about 6 months ago and has repeated searches for her name. They haven’t been together for the past three-and-a-half years. He has liked pictures of other girls as well (in bikinis and such), but refuses to like any of mine. We are long distance, so I figured social media is a good way to feel connected. I confronted him about it. He said he has no feelings for her and that he was just being stupid. So I asked him to cut her off on social media. He seemed so hesitant, but finally did it. My gut tell me something is up.

“He yelled at me because I didn’t want him to lie to the police”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years. I am always the fixer, which means whether it’s my fault, or his, I go to him first, to fix any problems we have. Always. He hardly apologizes when he’s wrong and I apologize too much when I’m not.

Tonight, we went out for some drinks and took an Uber. On our way back to the house, we accidentally got in the wrong uber. The driver asked for his name, he said his name and confirmed. We hopped in. I guess the driver didn’t hear the name correctly. Almost home, we realized this mistake; the driver was a total a-hole and said pay cash or get out. Neither of us had cash so we got out. We made a report to Uber since we were stranded at midnight on the side of the road. We called another and finally made it. Continue reading →