“Does my boyfriend watch too much porn?”

Is it normal that my boyfriend watches porn, usually in the morning in the shower while I’m asleep? We have been together for a little under a year. Just recently I have found out that he watches it, even after he and I have had sex before sleeping — sometimes three times a day. I tried to talk to him about it, and he says it’s nothing or just doesn’t want to talk about it. He says it’s normal.

I understand that watching porn and masturbating are normal and should not affect the relationship. But with him, it’s constant. I feel like I’m not enough, not pretty enough to meet whatever needs he has in watching porn. In my last relationship, my ex-boyfriend was not like this, so I know not all men are this way. I also catch him looking at other women when we go out. Any bit of advice would help. Thank you.

3 thoughts on ““Does my boyfriend watch too much porn?”

  1. solstice444 says:

    Watching porn three times a day seems like an excessive amount. If he won’t change his habits and refuses to talk about it, it’s possible he has a porn addiction. You can’t make him get help, so if it really bothers you, consider if you want a future with him.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Watching that much porn is too much…. I have been in your shoes. I had an ex that would rather let one out in the bathroom than have sex with me even when I was hot and ready for him. You have the right to feel the way you do, and I agree with the comment above me. He may need help and possibly have an addiction.

  3. yeahbutwhatif says:

    thinking of sex is normal, masturbating is normal, looking at other people is normal, watching porn is debatable if it is “normal” but the driving force behind it is. What is definitely is also normal is becoming addicted to it for the same driving force above. It sounds like it has gotten to that level if he isn’t even comfortable talking about it.

    IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU “NOT BEING ENOUGH”
    sorry to shout but you NEED to understand that. you are in no way related to the cause of this. At the end of the day, he either has a problem and needs to accept that (even if it is just to himself) and make steps to change it if he really wants to or he doesn’t have a problem with it at which point you need to decide how it fits with your boundaries. If you can accept this as part of who he is then that is fine. If not (and based on your message I’m assuming that is the case) you need to make it clear as to how you feel about it and what will happen if it doesn’t change. You can’t MAKE him change, he must choose that himself but you also choose the life you want to live and those who walk the road with you.

    I hope that made sense…

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