“He yelled at me because I didn’t want him to lie to the police”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years. I am always the fixer, which means whether it’s my fault, or his, I go to him first, to fix any problems we have. Always. He hardly apologizes when he’s wrong and I apologize too much when I’m not.

Tonight, we went out for some drinks and took an Uber. On our way back to the house, we accidentally got in the wrong uber. The driver asked for his name, he said his name and confirmed. We hopped in. I guess the driver didn’t hear the name correctly. Almost home, we realized this mistake; the driver was a total a-hole and said pay cash or get out. Neither of us had cash so we got out. We made a report to Uber since we were stranded at midnight on the side of the road. We called another and finally made it.

Immediately he placed a complaint with Uber. He said he wanted to file a police report and say the Uber driver was drunk driving or speeding and driving recklessly. I disagreed, because that’s obviously not the truth and I did not find it necessary. He shouted at me “You always disagree with me!” And I stared at him and he said “Stop staring at me or go home.” He told me he didn’t want to see me tomorrow. Then asked if I was on my period … I had one drink. He had two. I’m now alone crying upstairs contemplating if I should apologize for something. But this time, I can’t seem to find something that’s my fault.

3 thoughts on ““He yelled at me because I didn’t want him to lie to the police”

  1. Anonymous says:

    It’s not and you are in a mentally abusive relationship. Now is the time to end it because it will get worse. He will always gaslight you: “you’re crazy, are you on your period?, etc.” People don’t change like in the movies and he’s not going to. You deserve better. Get out now.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Get. Out. Now.
    He needs to grow up and learn how to treat women properly. My husband asked me ONCE if I was on my period and it was a “coming to Jesus” moment for us both. That is NOT ok. Ever. And saying that because he wanted you to potentially ruin someone’s life for trying to make a living? You can do better.

  3. Anonymous says:

    He’s trash, leave him behind and work on loving yourself instead. You seem like a great person, while he seems manipulative and unpleasant to be around.

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