Please help settle this tiff between this couple:
Chloe says:
We moved in together three years ago. We sleep at the same time every night, but the next day I wake up at 9:00 or so, and he sleeps in until 2:00 pm. I’ve already cleaned, fed our pets, attempted to fix him breakfast, and waited for him to wake. I’ve tried waking him up earlier, but he just rolls over and sleeps more. We’ve fought many times over this, but he just refuses to wake up at a decent hour, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t like being alone for so long and doing it all by myself.
Jon says:
Yeah I sleep in, but only because I’m tired. I try waking up sometimes, but I’m not perfect, ya know? I don’t get why its such a big deal.
sorry in advance if this isn’t the best advice, but i saw that no one had answered so here i am 🙂 maybe you could give him a reason to wake up earlier. I mean it seems like you do a lot of the work that require immediate attention in the morning, so maybe instead of doing it all yourself give him something to do to and maybe that would give him a reason to wake up. He probably only sleeps that much because he knows he has nothing to do until that time.
Is this an everyday thing? Does he work odd hours? Does the bf have any health issues like low iron or insomnia or depression that’s keeping him from getting proper rest?
Is this just a weekend thing? Or an everyday thing? I feel like we are missing some essential info. If he has a hard job and works long hours and wants to sleep in on the weekend, I totally get it. However, if this is an everyday thing and the GF is doing most of the support work, you GOTTA make more of an effort dude.
In the end, it’s all about balance. If you’re sleeping in that late, you have to be doing something in the hours you’re awake that’s making life easier for her.