“I keep randomly running into my ex-boyfriend”

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So this guy and I broke up a couple a months ago, due to a lack of communication. I told him we should talk about us in regards to this. But he took it the wrong way, thinking that I was trying to break it off with him, so he broke up with me first.

We aren’t on bad terms. Things are just somewhat awkward. We definitely had strong feelings for each other. After the breakup, I tried to find answers and resolve things, but he sounded like he didn’t care much.

For a few months, I started to never see him around (we go to the same school), but then suddenly, he reappeared again. When he did, he seemed to check me out often and tried to walk past me on purpose sometimes. He had noticeably gained weight and seems more quiet and inactive than he was when we were dating.

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“My bipolar meds killed my sex drive”

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In the beginning of my relationship with “Dan,” I was hyper-sexual. I wanted sex all day, everyday. This killed Dan, as he is not an overly sexual person at all. He doesn’t want sex very often and usually is in the mood only once a week.

Just two months ago, I was diagnosed as bipolar. I’m now medicated and am no longer overly sexual. To be honest, I have pretty much lost my entire sex drive.

I didn’t think this was a problem at first, but just last night, Dan said to me it was affecting his self-confidence. Because previously I was all over him, and now all I want to do is cuddle.

I honestly don’t know what to do. Please help.

“I found dirty messages on my partner’s phone”

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So I looked on my partner’s phone last night. I know I shouldn’t have, but I just had this weird feeling, like someone was telling me to. Anyway, I found messages to two different women. He’s 24, and one of the women is 51. They were sending dirty pictures to each other, but she knew about me — he told her he had a fiance.

The other woman is a similar age to him. She’s just had her second baby. I was reading through the messages, and they have been talking for about 19 months now. He’s met her, but I don’t know how many times. Again, she knew about me, but carried on talking to him.

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“My boyfriend told me I’m ‘definitely not’ the prettiest girl he’s dated”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months, officially for six. Initially, I didn’t want to enter a relationship and wanted to keep casual, but he did things that made me feel like maybe he’s great. Unfortunately, I’ve had my fair share of bad/unhappy relationships, and though I found him attractive and liked him, I wanted to work on myself and develop a stronger friendship with him first.

At first, we had fun going out. He would be all over me, wanting to see me as often as possible, etc. So one day, I stupidly asked if I was the prettiest or one of the prettiest girls he had seen. He said, “no, definitely not.”

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“I have a crush on my casual hookup”

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There is this guy right now, and we have this arrangement. I hooked up with him last year during his senior year, but he still comes back to visit my college all the time. And when he does, we always hook up.

He has this habit of not reaching out to me unless he thinks he’s coming back to school. Then he reaches out to me like two weeks out, we chat, and then inevitably hook up when he does come back. I don’t know what the arrangement is, nor if I’m even close enough with him to pry about it, but I’m graduating very soon and moving near him.

I like him, I think, and really would like to try to maybe have something with him. But I have no idea how to even approach the subject without seeming clingy, or if I should even try at all. He insists that he genuinely cares about me, but I feel like he just says this to get sex, because as soon as we hook up, he fades back out for a while, until he thinks he’s going to see me again. I have so many questions and no idea how to ask him about it.

“My (gay) boyfriend doesn’t want to use a condom for our first time”

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I am in a homosexual relationship, and have been with my partner for about two years now. He has always been trustworthy, and from what I know, has never cheated. We have had oral sex, but we have yet to do anal, as we are young and curious, but not very brave.

Anyways, we now want to try it, but he does not want to use a condom, because he believes it is more natural. We both know that we don’t have STD’s. He says I should take his word and that it’s just gay sex, so there’s no risk of pregnancy.

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“I have an obsessive crush on a guy from school”

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I can’t get over a guy who might not like me. I’ve known him for three years, since when I was 15. Throughout high school, we talked since we had the same classes, but no one knew anything about him after school.

He’s a very quiet and polite guy. However, I am three weeks short of graduating, and I’ve realized how much I like him. I can’t get over this crush. It completely overwhelms me, and I’m scared that I might have become obsessive.

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“My ex and I are still best friends”

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My ex and I are best friends, and they’re the only person i ever dated. They told me they still cared about me a couple of times, and I still care about them.

Is it bad to do that and still be really close? We’ve been asked if we got back together, because of hugs and sort-of hand-holding (but not exactly walking around or leaving them at our sides). Not to mention that all the flirtatious behavior from our relationship still spills around, like joking winks or getting pretty close in the personal space (not that I’m complaining, let’s be honest), to the point that I thought they were trying to kiss me the other day.

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