“My bipolar meds killed my sex drive”

In the beginning of my relationship with “Dan,” I was hyper-sexual. I wanted sex all day, everyday. This killed Dan, as he is not an overly sexual person at all. He doesn’t want sex very often and usually is in the mood only once a week.

Just two months ago, I was diagnosed as bipolar. I’m now medicated and am no longer overly sexual. To be honest, I have pretty much lost my entire sex drive.

I didn’t think this was a problem at first, but just last night, Dan said to me it was affecting his self-confidence. Because previously I was all over him, and now all I want to do is cuddle.

I honestly don’t know what to do. Please help.

One thought on ““My bipolar meds killed my sex drive”

  1. Karen Kerschmann, LCSW says:

    I’m glad you posted. My first question is if Dan is aware of your diagnosis and medication? If so, he may benefit from knowing that one of the manic symptoms is an extremely high sex drive. As the meds ‘even out’ the highs and the lows many people complain that one of the side effects is lack of libido. Information is power, and often if loved ones know that this is a common experience they won’t be as likely to take it as a personal offense.

    Secondly, have you spoken to your psychiatrist and about this issue? They also may be able to help you achieve a more balanced drive. If you have a therapist, which I highly encourage if you have been recently diagnosed. They could also have tips on how to increase sexual responsiveness.

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