“I really like this guy, but I’m afraid to make the first move”

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I’ve been pretty much best friends with a guy for about five years. The whole time there has been underlying romantic tension; we are both sort of shy (not with each other but in any uncomfortable situations), and neither of us has really made a move at any point.

Valentine’s day last year (2015), he admitted to having some feelings for me, and me, being really horribly awkward, just sort of replied like, “aw thank you”, because I also had complicated feelings for someone else at that point and wasn’t sure if I wanted to start something. Now I do want to start something, but I am a big baby about talking about feelings.

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“I’m 22 and have never been in a relationship”

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So, hello guys. I’m a 22-year-old female, and I have been single ALL my life. I have never been in a relationship, ever. It has come to the point where my mother thinks I’m gay (which I’m not).

WHY?!!!!

It never used to bother me until now that all of my friends are in relationships or married. I’m not ugly, nor do I have an ugly personality or attitude. Why is it that I have never had or been close to being in a relationship?

“My boyfriend keeps checking out other girls”

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My boyfriend is a great boyfriend in every way except one (or it could be that it’s my problem, which is why I’m interested in other opinions).

So I feel he loves me and tells me nice things and I’m not insecure about how I look, it’s just sometimes when we are out together I notice him looking over my shoulder to watch someone else. I find it quite rude. I make a point about it and he will feel embarrassed. Usually in the moment he will say things like no I wasn’t checking her out I recognise her…or something else. The point is it makes me snap out of happy mood and jump into defense.

It happened last night while we were with friends drinking….but this time instead of explaining in a nice way he kind of just pushed it under the rug. I realised as we were both drinking with friends to just drop it but then the next day I tried to address it in a calm and non-drunk way that I don’t like it and find it disrespectful and he went nuts.

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“My boyfriend has a secret relationship with another girl”

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So, I was with this guy for five months, and everything was essentially perfect until just the other day, when another girl texted me saying that she was his girlfriend of five months. We compared notes and he met both of us with in a week of each other (asshole!).

I never pushed to be exclusive with him because I myself finally left a five-year relationship that was very abusive just a few months just before meeting him. Feelings are hard, and I was still feeling damaged, but he caught me off guard. He was so nice and presented himself as everything I ever wanted in a man, and he was just so damn nice and good to me.

He has two kids and is a great part-time dad — always there for his kids (I myself am a single mom), and he takes care of his sick, elderly mother. He has a good job, works really hard, and is handsome (fuck, is he hot! Ugh!). He was everything my ex wasn’t. He was perfect. 😦 Continue reading →

“My ex is getting married, and I’m afraid of losing him”

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My ex-boyfriend from five years ago is now engaged to a girl he has been with since not long after we split. We broke up because I was young and stupid, but for their entire relationship, he has messaged me every day, every morning, and every night.

He still tries to flirt with me, talks to me about everything, and tries to make time to see me. He is supposed to be getting married in July to his fiancée, who doesn’t like me at all (long story which happened before my ex and I even dated).

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Why Restaurants Hate Online Dating

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Apparently, the popularity of online dating has forced restaurants to change the way they do business.

In a nutshell, people linger for too damned long when they’re on a date with someone they meet on the internet. All they can hope for is that customers will spend more and at least buy expensive drinks in an effort to impress their dates.

Then again, I think I would totally enjoy the sweet, delicious schadenfreude that comes with watching a first-date train wreck unfold in real time. You know it’s gotta happen, right?

“I’m dating a girl, but think I’m falling in love with a guy”

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First off, I’m bi. I’ve dated men before, but I’m in my first same-sex relationship with someone whom I was good friends with.

It took a while for her parents to come to terms with it, as they thought she might be making a mistake. I don’t want to prove her parents right, but I also don’t want to date her anymore. I feel scared to tell her because she still really likes me. We haven’t been dating that long and nearly all our friends are mutual. It doesn’t help that everyone keeps saying how much they ‘ship’ us.

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“My boyfriend hasn’t cheated, but I can’t stop checking his phone”

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I have been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years now. He is beyond perfect for me. He’s always there, he’s so romantic, and I know he loves me. I’m his first girlfriend.

I have been cheated on and hurt in the past, and I still have my guard up, but my boyfriend doesn’t even show interest in other girls, and always makes me feel special and tells me how pretty I am, and it does make me feel amazing. But whenever I see him talk to someone else or add someone on Facebook, I get extremely jealous, and it always turns into an argument!

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How to Get Over a Breakup Using Science

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If you’re having a hard time getting over a breakup, psychologists have some suggestions for you:

First off, their research says that you shouldn’t necessarily write about the breakup, as it can often make you feel worse.

Instead, you should write what they refer to as a “redemptive narrative” … because you know, everything always seems more medically sound when you use technical words.

The point of the redemptive narrative is not just to write about the breakup, but also describe how you turned it into a positive experience. Or if you’re still in the throes of post-breakup agony, write about what you’re doing to overcome it.

Here’s an article that discusses the aforementioned studies in more detail:

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