My ex-boyfriend from five years ago is now engaged to a girl he has been with since not long after we split. We broke up because I was young and stupid, but for their entire relationship, he has messaged me every day, every morning, and every night.
He still tries to flirt with me, talks to me about everything, and tries to make time to see me. He is supposed to be getting married in July to his fiancée, who doesn’t like me at all (long story which happened before my ex and I even dated).
I need advice as to why maybe he is doing this? And advice as to what I can do? I don’t want to lose him. I’m so afraid of losing him. He is one person whom I have told everything to, and he tells me everything as well. My family and friends always say that they thought my ex and I would get married, and have said it since day one.
I love him so much and would do anything for him, but I don’t know what to do? I don’t want to lose contact with him. I’m afraid that when he marries his fiancée, he will stop talking to me. Has anyone else been in this situation? Or does anyone have any advice? I already know he is my one who got away.
He is no good. He shouldn’t be planning to marry this woman and talking to you. I understand how you feel, but honestly, he should’ve gotten back together with you if he wanted to be with you, rather than all this. You and she are both getting disrespected by this. Break it off and show her what’s been going on.
You need to move on. Find someone else to be your confidante. The two of you should stop talking – you should be the bigger person and cut off contact. Think of his poor fiancee.
It doesn’t sound good, but the least you can do is tell him how you feel. Ask him if he really intends to go through with marrying this woman.
If he intends to go through with it anyway, then you have your answer.
You will need to cut yourself off from him. Communication of any kind will only make things worse, and eventually things will escalate and not just you but his fiance’ as well will both be the ones suffering by the end of it.