I have been with the same guy for eight years, and we have been engaged for four years. We just recently bought a house together.
On my way back home from a business trip, he texted me and said he was unhappy and wanted to end everything. He doesn’t want to try to work on things. He says he loves me, but, can’t do it anymore. We decided to sell the house, and one week later, he has started to date a girl he used to sext all the time, apparently completely unrelated (according to him).
I’ve been meeting up with a girl on and off for a year now. She’s 34 and I’m 22. She’s had bad experiences with men before me – her ex tried drowning her. She loved him, cheated on him, and continues to love him. She has two kids to him and a third to another man. Her daughter was diagnosed with cancer. She doesn’t drive I do so help out with appointments, etc., recently driving 120 miles a day for 3 weeks. She told me she isn’t interested in a relationship, but continues to text and meet me when she’s had a drink. She says I’m 22, and tells me to enjoy myself. She says she isn’t interested in anyone apart from me, and won’t hold me back. I love her and believed her, and if she knew I was seeing a girl, it didn’t stop her from cracking on with me when the notion took her. She says things she shouldn’t, making me think that she loves me.
My wife left me in January after only eight months of marriage. She said she was “100% sure” she couldn’t be happy with me, and that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She said that I work too much (she wasn’t working at the time). She said awful things to me about my appearance, my personality, and my ability to be loved. I was torn to a million pieces.
She moved out of the house, and while I told her I wouldn’t ask her to love me anymore (that doesn’t work, in my experience), I also said we should slow it down. Go to therapy. Keep in touch. She refused. The only thing I asked was that she not serve me papers at work. I was new, and I was the department head, and my team didn’t need to see me get served at work.
So she served me at work.
A couple of months later, I met an amazing woman. I knew it was risky, but we decided to date. She’s fantastic. She enjoys all the things I do (travel, cooking, wine – all things my wife was lukewarm – at best – about), my friends love her, and she matches my hustle professionally.
So, my girlfriend and I have been together a few months and she is complaining to other people that I’m not getting her hints for sexual attention. I’m also a virgin, and she is aware of this fact. We share the same birthday, and every time I try to set up what we want to drink, or where we are going, or what we are doing, she gets distracted or says, “I don’t know” and shrugs it off.
Is this a sign that she isn’t really feeling the relationship? Do I just idly sit by and hope she feels comfortable enough to talk to me about how to respond to her moves, or make moves of my own? She talks to me all the time about how she has eloped in this parking garage or corrupted that parking lot. When I try to ask what she is comfortable with, she says, “We will get there when we get there.” It’s to the point that I kinda just exist in the room with her, and am relatively indifferent unless I’m getting inebriated with her. I know that’s not healthy, but I’ll be 21 in a few days, and she will be 19.
I used to be abstinent. After some thought, I decided that that is not important to me anymore. I’m still a virgin, but, if sex happens, it happens.
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now, and he refuses to have sex with me because of “my beliefs.” It’s been years since I told him I no longer believe in waiting, but, he absolutely will not have sex with me. What do I do?
Okay, so this has been going on for a while now and I don’t know what to do. I’m 16 years old, and I’ve been having this sudden urge to make out with any guy I’m with. I know it’s literally called being horny, and it’s purely hormonal. I am pretty sure I’m not asexual, but I am not interested in having sex AT ALL.
I’ve seen the consequences of unprotected sex, and sex when you are too young, and the consequences are not appealing to me at all. I literally just want a traditional one night stand kind of deal, where we make out for a while, and feelings beyond physical attraction are just not there, and we go our separate ways, unaffected besides the pleasure of making out with each other.
Because science says so.
It’s true. Conventional wisdom tells us to play coy and create an air of mystery and make the other person long for us. And now, science agrees.
The study described here will explain how it all pans out.
I’m in a strange, complicated issue. I’m an Asexual Panromantic female, and I’m in love with my best friend. He is in love with me too, but is scared to date because of a distance issue. My family tells me not to wait around for him.
I love him so much, yet at the same time, want to experience life instead of waiting around. What should I do?
I’ve written about this before — and taken some hate for it — but when we break up with someone, I believe the most compassionate way to do so is to be cold and uncompassionate. Because to be otherwise is really only satisfying our need to look like a “good” person.
Now, here’s an article that backs me up. The graphics in the accompanying video are a bit on the creepy side if you ask me, but it does make a very valid point:
Kindness has no role whatsoever to play at the charred end of relationships. Being sweet and understanding merely prolongs the torture for the other person.
As the video also points out, when we choose to be warm and understanding during a breakup, its in part due to a narcissistic desire to be loved even by someone we ourselves don’t love.
Point being? Just rip that band-aid off. A clean break is the best way to end a relationship.
I’m in high school and there’s this guy … we have some things in common, and he seems nice enough. He often “slides into my dm’s” (like, two to three times a week). I’m pretty sure he likes me, but I’m not positive, and I don’t know how to talk to him at this point.
After school ended for the year, some of the people from our grade went on a trip. I chose not to go because I was saving for a car. Anyway, on the trip, one of my friends overheard him telling his friends how “smokin’ hot” I was (which is weird, as I’ve got no booty and no boobs to speak of). They also said that there were tons of rumors about how he had sent me nudes, even though he hadn’t even spoken to me throughout the duration of the trip. Since the end of the trip, he hasn’t talked to me very much. He slides into my dm’s occasionally, but I always have to end the conversation because I’m busy doing other stuff.
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