“Now that she has a boyfriend, she has no time for a best friend”

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My best friend and I are extremely close. She has stuck by me through my hardest times. I have a significant other, and she is fully aware of that. However, I never fail to make time for both of them individually, because they are so every close to me.

Recently, she acquired her first boyfriend. Of course, I am happy for her. I’m so happy that she’s happy. But now, she spends all of her time with him and almost seems to be annoyed by me. Whenever I try to squeeze in time with her, she tells me that I’m acting like her mother and to let her just be with him. I respected their space for a long time, but it’s really starting to hurt not having my best friend around anymore. I love my significant other, of course, but we all need a female best friend. What should I do?

“Is my secret relationship with an older woman wrong?”

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I am a college-age female living away from home for the first time, going to school in a state about 200 miles from home. I am not a really experienced person in life, this is my first time living independently and I admit to being pretty socially awkward – shy, quiet, not too visible.

I have never had any serious relationships and have not really spent much time developing my sexuality. I did not date much in high school and have never been certain about my interest in males, I went out with two boys but only a few times. I have had close female friends and experimented with kissing them but not much more and really drew away from any complicated interaction, keeping to myself and paying attention to schoolwork and lots of other things. I don’t feel that I missed out on anything especially but also think maybe that I am too introverted and shy and maybe I should pay attention to all these things.

So when I arrived here, meaning where I am attending college, I got a room near campus. The woman who is my landlord is a middle-aged woman (late 40’s) and she was very sweet and kind to me. Perhaps because of my nature I allowed her to become very involved in my life. She turned out being around me all the time and perhaps I allowed that, not establishing any boundaries. Again, I am not forward as a person. Continue reading →

“My roommate is making my life a misery”

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Hi, I’m a freshman in college and I’m having roommate issues. I have 3 roommates and we live in an apartment-style dorm room, so we each have our own room but we share a living room and bathroom. I love 2 of my roommates but the other one is causing issues.

About a week ago, let’s just say she called me a really rude name. I don’t care if people call me this name in a joking manner, I don’t care if people call me this name and I deserve it, but she wasn’t joking and I didn’t deserve it, so it made me upset. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend wants anal sex”

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Ok so, my bf of two years really wants anal sex, I really don’t want to cuz we have tried before and it hurt so bad that I was sore for almost a whole week afterwards. We have a good relationship and I give him literally everything else he wants. My question is, is there any way to go on with this and not be in pain or mentally scarred from this? Experience has taught me if you don’t give up things like this even a good man will go somewhere else for it. And that would devastate me.

“Not ready for a sexual relationship”

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So, my boyfriend has been with me for 7 months now and we haven’t gone anywhere sexual because I’m only 16 and am not comfortable with that. He begs me all the time for nudes and stuff and I always deny it.

So recently he asked me if I was asexual and I looked it up and said “I guess.” The next day he asked me if it was okay if he got sexual with this other girl, with no love involved. I felt sick to my stomach so I said “I don’t deserve to interfere with your happiness so do whatever makes you happy.” Because I feel like since I can’t provide what he needs I deserve to be left behind. Continue reading →

“I got upset when he shared something personal with me”

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So, I’ve never had a connection with another person like I have with this guy. We were never “official” but we were incredibly close. We’re both very jealous people, we both did silly things (nothing serious) just to get reactions out of each other, but it never really affected the relationship.

He treated me so well, too, I can’t explain how happy his presence made me. However, the other weekend he told me something really personal about his past. Something he’s never told anyone else, and instead of being a decent supportive person, I got upset about it (I was also 12/10 drunk at the time so I wasn’t being myself). I left the room because I didn’t know how to react to it. I’d been through something incredibly similar, and it triggered all these memories that I don’t want to think about anymore. Continue reading →

“His twin brother wants to date me”

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So about 5 or 6 years ago I was occasionally talking to this guy. Nothing serious. We texted sometimes, maybe had 2 phone conversations but never dated or anything. The first time we hung out we ended up having sex. Next day went on as if nothing happened. We only had sex one more time after that before we just eventually drifted to other interests I guess you can say.

Fast forward 4 years later, me and my girls would chill out with these guys that my friends grew up with. Guys were really chill… liked to genuinely have fun and yada yada. One of the guys always flirted with me and eventually made it clear that he liked me so I asked a few people about him to see what vibes I would get. One source revealed he had a twin brother.

OMG! Once that was said to me it made sense why he looked so familiar of another person – the guy I slept with years ago.  Ever since learning this, I basically friend zoned him. I never once revealed that I slept with his brother because frankly it wasn’t something I was too excited about and I didn’t want it to change how they viewed me. His brother in question moved down south and started his life there with a whole new family. Been there for a while and doesn’t seem to come back to where we live anytime soon. So me and the current brother have actually been on a date because he always asked but I felt bad after. IDK, like I  feel like it’s inappropriate and also pretty gross in a way but then again this happened yearssss ago and the family has a new life somewhere else. What should I do?

“Frustrated by a relationship that never was”

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Let me just start this off by saying that I made some mistakes here, and they are now glaringly obvious to me now. I’ve spent a large part of my life not willing to put myself out there and take risks when it comes to love, but I’ve resolved to change that and live my life without being controlled by fear.

I met this girl about two years ago, and I’ve been crazy about her for some time. I finally asked her out in May, and she actually said yes. Then when I tried to work out the when and where of going out she started telling me she was busy. I re-iterated to her that I’d still like to take her out, and she re-iterated to me that she was very busy. I guess this is the point where I should have taken a hint, but I didn’t because I guess I didn’t want to. Or because I’m very rusty when it comes to relationships.
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“He asked me to live with him, but maybe as a friend”

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I have a friend, call him P. He is 36 I’m 28. I think he knows I’m gay, but I didn’t answer him when he asked and joked about how he would have to get me a girlfriend. I’ve still not told anyone, as I’m unsure how most of my friends will react. I have known P for some years, and he has never seen me in a relationship.

I came back to England to visit and stay with him and a friend (call him Q 4) months ago. Q is straight and not 100% comfortable with gays. I ended up staying and looking for a job.

Just after Christmas, they had a fight, with the end being Q wanting P to move out. I heard it, but kept out of the way. After all of this, P said he was moving, and now, he has found a new flat. Continue reading →

“I don’t know if I was sexually assaulted, or if I cheated on my boyfriend”

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I went out one night with my best friends and a newer guy friend who had been taking me and my boyfriend out on his boat. I met this guy though a mutual friend. He seemed like a pretty cool guy and seemed to be interested in one of my friends who was there.

The night had started out really fun. We went to a few places to get drinks and play games like ping pong, pool, corn hole. He spent a lot of time talking to my friend. By the end of the night, we ended back at the hotel we started off with for drinks. We weren’t in any position to drive, and I was extremely tired, so I said, “let’s just get a room.”

I have many guy friends, so I know how to share a space and sleep. Things don’t need to happen just because we’re in the same room or even bed. The night took a turn for the worst once we got up to the room, though. I remember plopping into bed and being ready to just pass out. Then I heard him and my friend making sounds. I could tell he was trying to get some action from her. I was on the end of the bed, my friend was in the middle, and he was on the opposite end. I couldn’t tell if she wanted what he was doing to her, but I remember at one point, I threw myself around her, as if I was spooning her from behind, and crossed my leg over her body, so he would hopefully stop and leave her alone. Continue reading →