“My boyfriend bought gifts for an ex”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, live together, shared bank account etc. We are behind financially so I knew not to expect Christmas gifts. My birthday was also a couple of weeks ago and he asked me to return one of my gifts since we needed the money and we would repurchase it later. I returned it.

I found out today that he sent a gift card for $50 to some girl that he went out with briefly that dumped him. He says I have no reason to be upset and am over reacting, and that he was able to have money to do this, and couldn’t get me something for Christmas because I’ve gotten gifts from him for 4 years. I know in my heart I’m right, but wanted another opinion.

“My male best friend has a girlfriend”

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I have a male best friend. He’s always been in love with me but I was in a relationship and that created some distance . I broke off my relationship due to some issues and we became quite close again.

But then I thought he was over me but suddenly he’s seeing this girl and they are dating. We both lost our virginity to each other and he keeps saying he wishes he could be with me. I can’t stand him dating her and I think I should break things off with him. We still have sex often, even though he now has a girlfriend. I’m just confused on what to do.

“I’m afraid for him to see me with my shirt off”

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Last year, I left a 5-year-long abusive relationship. A large part of the abuse came from my ex’s humiliating name-calling during fights. Names often centering around my body and the word “fat.”

I have always been self-conscious of my body (I have been roughly 50 lbs overweight for most of my life), but that experience really left me mindf*cked. Now, I am free of him, and on my way to loving myself. Part of that includes eating healthier and exercising. I’ve been feeling great and do not feel discouraged to continue. Continue reading →

“I am stuck in a massive rut”

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So, long story short. I am stuck in a massive rut, this past year has been horrible for me, I found out earlier in the year that I can’t have children. At the time I was 3 years into a relationship with my fiancee , I knew that she desperately wanted children more than anything and that me not being able to have them would crush her, and so I decided not to tell her.

A few months later we had an argument and broke up, I knew it was the right thing to do for her but it destroyed me to let her go. This began several months of destructive behaviour. I went back to recreational drug use and began putting less and less effort into everything, work and personal life. Continue reading →

“I’m transgender and scared to tell my family”

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I really have come to a point where I’m sure I’m either transgender or non-binary. I know I will never come out, or transition because my parents and sister always talk about how disgusting they are.

It would be easy if they were a terrible family, but they are loving to me. They always tell me they love me, and I really love them with all my heart as well. I don’t want them to ever look at me differently. It’s really depressing to know that I can never tell them. I don’t know if I should risk everything and let them know – or just keep it under wraps…

“I regret breaking up with him so we could pursue our dreams”

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Hi! I’ve been thinking about something for three years that i don’t really feel about discussing with friends, but I really need advice!

About three years ago, I had a lovely boyfriend. He was an amazing guy, and we just fit really well. But our future dreams were really different! He wanted to do another college degree on the other side of the country and go to America and live there for a while. My dreams were scattered before we got together, by an accident which left me with a big disability. But I still wanted to pursue going to New Zealand for a year, because my family is from there. I also still had to have two operations and finish my degree, which was super stressful and hard.

I broke it off after six months of exclusive dating, but I still loved him. I broke up with him because I wanted us both to follow our dreams. Continue reading →

“I found out her mother has breast cancer”

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So the story goes… I dated this girl for about 9 months. The first few months were great, our families already knew each other, everyone approved, and life was good.

As the days passed, I started to realize she might not be for me. She got on my nerves and we were just different people. We ended up breaking up.

Two days ago I found out her mother has breast cancer. I text her to say how sorry I was. This news literally shook me to my core. I felt like such a piece of shit that I added to her misery at this trying time. My mother has passed away so it really hit home. We started talking about us and how hurt she is. She asked me not to speak to her anymore if we are really over so she could find closure. I agreed. Continue reading →

“I hate my dad and I never loved him”

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I live with my mom and dad . These days I’m feeling a little distanced with my family especially with my dad. My dad drinks daily, he comes home after work, locks himself in his room and starts drinking for no reason. My mom never took a stand and stopped him. She has always cared about what other people will think about our family.

I hate my dad and I never loved him. I’m so frustrated living with them. I feel helpless and somewhere I’m afraid to stop such behavior of my dad because he starts abusing my mother and me when anyone says anything against him. I really don’t know what to do.

“I don’t think I want him anymore”

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I have been with the same guy for four years. We recently got engaged and we have a 9 month old daughter together. Right now I stay at home and take care of our baby girl. He works full time and pays all of the bills. Sounds perfect right?

Only I hate being dependent on him and I’m not sure if I even want to be in this relationship anymore. I feel so selfish for wanting to leave. Mostly because I want my daughter to be okay and have both of us. But also because he really hasn’t done anything wrong. I don’t feel anything with him anymore. My sex drive is little to none when I’m around him. He controls all the finances and also checks what I buy. I hate to say this but I feel more like his mother than his fiancée. Should I stay and try to work things out or should I get a job, save up and be on my way?

“I’m upset with myself for being jealous of a friend”

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So I have this friend who I went to school with, and now we’re at University together. We do different subjects and live separately so I don’t see her all that often at the moment – we’re both adjusting to the new lifestyle and such.

As background, the way that we got to know each other at school was partly through school plays. She would often be cast as a leading part and I really love drama but don’t tend to get big parts. Since we’ve arrived at University, though, that difference has grown so that now she’s been in two plays already in our first term and has another two and a student film lined up for after the Christmas holidays, and I have auditioned for a series of things, none of which I’ve got. Cry. Continue reading →