“Should I go to my sister’s wedding?”

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I’m in a long distance relationship and we plan out our visits months ahead of time because we know what long weekends we will have to see each other.

My sister broke up with her boyfriend in August, was dating a new guy two weeks later, and 3 months later in November she was engaged to the new guy. They announced they would be married a year from then. Suddenly in December, they announced they would be getting married in 6 weeks. (Some background… this new boyfriend got her involved in Amway, a company known for its multilevel marketing aka a pyramid scheme.) We did our research and the company works more in your honor as a married couple. So our consensus – they are marrying such short notice because of their jobs BUT they are telling everyone it’s so soon because they want a small wedding with immediate family only. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend hits me”

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My boyfriend and I have a child which is why I’m thinking so hard about it. I don’t wanna leave him because we have a baby together…but he has hit me. He yells at me. He insults me. He’s choked me and punched me. That’s only when we argue…he says it’s my fault. But when we’re okay, he’s sweet…he does favors for me, he makes sure me and my son are okay…I don’t know what to do…

“My girlfriend restricted my access to hanging out with women”

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Trevor says:

Now, I would like to preface this by pointing out that my girlfriend is not cheating on me. It’s not just because I’m stupid or naïve. I just understand certain things about her that would be a very long story to share on this. She’s an extremely territorial person who has since restricted my access to hanging out with women.

I understand this because of her past and background. However, she insists that she should have the ability to hang out with other men. This bothers me. She goes out with them, let’s them buy her drinks, and such. My territorial — and fairness — side pings here as this being something that isn’t fair.

Kenna says:

What my boyfriend doesn’t understand is that I live in this new area, find it very difficult to make friends, and want to be able to go out and have fun. I try to make female friends too, but I just find it more difficult, since the girls in my life seem to be more flaky than the boys.

I understand that the men who hang out with me want to sleep with me, but I would never sleep with them. I would never cheat on my boyfriend. I love him dearly, and I’m not sexually interested in any of them. I don’t let him hang out with women, because it’s like him to hang out in groups of people, so it would be unlike him to hang out one-on-one. I, however, do not like hanging out with large groups. It’s just different.

“I moved away, and realize that she is in my head.”

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Wondering if anyone had any input for this…About 2 years ago I broke up with an ex and shortly after hooked up with a co-worker’s sister.  He was pushing me to date her but as soon as I tried to move things forward she backed off and said that we could be friends if that was ok with me. I played it nicely and just backed off as well. Then followed a year and a half of randomly bumping into her very rarely. I was a bartender, and my way to cope with the breakup was just by sleeping with strangers (something I’d never done before) and not really looking for anything serious as I was planning to leave the country.

About 5 months ago, word got out that I was on my way out and she contacted me randomly on Facebook. To keep things short, we reconnected a few weeks later, meeting and hooking up, and had sex for the first time. Had a few more encounters after that and a couple ‘dates.’ Spent my last night in the country with her and now that I moved away, realize that she is in my head. Continue reading →

“I’m sick of being the ugly friend”

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So I’m in a bit of a situation, which is obviously why I’m here, and I don’t really don’t know if this is the right place to put it, but it’s worth a shot right? Pretty much, I’m sick of being the ugly friend, the one that’s constantly left behind or the second option. This has been at least the third time where I’ve liked a guy, and I’m pretty sure he’s almost liked me back, and then I introduce them to my best girl friend, and suddenly they completely forget about me and move straight on to her.

They use me as a connection to try and get with her, and because of the person I am, I feel obliged to help them, but I want them to like me, if that makes any sense. And I’d rather not bring it up with her, because it’s not her fault that she’s absolutely stunning and amazing in every single way, but it’s really getting to me. I just want someone to choose me, you know?
Anyway, thanks.

“It’s almost a year since we last had sex”

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In February 2016 my hubby and I found out we were pregnant. We had a beautiful baby girl in November 2016.

My problem – we haven’t had sex since we conceived our daughter in February 2016! He thinks it’s gross now. That’s literally all he will tell me when I try and talk to him about it.

It’s almost a year since we last had sex!! Thoughts?

“I think I’ve developed feelings for a girl”

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I attend an all-girls school. This new school year a girl moved into our school and ended up in my base class. She seemed really nice, and I was excited to get to know her. It’s been a few months since the beginning of the year now and I think I’ve developed feelings for her. I’m unsure, as previous to now I never would’ve thought that I was anything other than straight.

Whenever she talks to me I seem to tense up, and I often catch myself staring at her. At first I thought that it was some sort of ‘platonic crush’, but I have no idea. This has made becoming friends with her a problem. One day I might be completely confident and we’ll talk etc., but on other occasions I’ve found myself to be completely anxiety-ridden whenever she speaks to me. What do you guys think? Am I actually crushing on her or what?

“She doesn’t even bother giving excuses for being distant anymore”

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I’m 21 years old, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend for just over two years now. Neither of our parents know about our relationship, so spending time together is difficult, but we’ve been managing fairly well.

Last year, she was a first-year art student, and I’ve been giving her all the space she needs in order to experience everything college brings with it. But lately, she’s been extremely distant. She shoots down most of my attempts to see her, and she doesn’t even bother with excuses anymore, we didn’t talk much on the phone as she preferred to do it in person, but now we don’t talk on the phone at all. Continue reading →

“I found out my wife cheated on me 14 years ago”

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Back when we dating, my wife had sex with a guy on cruise. It was 14 years ago, and we had been dating for 4 years at that point. We now have been married for 2 years, and I only found out 6 months ago, when she decided to tell me sort of out of the blue.

After she told me, I found a photo album with 6 pics of her hanging on this guy. She said this meant nothing to her. Yet, why did she save the pics?

She refuses now even to discuss this with me. I feel she is not being honest with me about what it meant. Should I be upset?

“I need to be with her or get over her”

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I met this girl in 2011 and immediately was hooked. She was always very reserved and I didn’t know much about her. It intrigued me. After about a year of chasing her and being led on, I had enough and tried to move on.

I started dating my current girlfriend of 4 years to get over her. She turned out to be a Godsend and is beautiful, funny and ambitious. I couldn’t be luckier. But of course I never stopped talking to the first girl and she confirmed she had feelings for me. I tried many times and stopped talking to her completely for over a year, but there is always something pulling me back in. Continue reading →