I’m 21 years old, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend for just over two years now. Neither of our parents know about our relationship, so spending time together is difficult, but we’ve been managing fairly well.

Last year, she was a first-year art student, and I’ve been giving her all the space she needs in order to experience everything college brings with it. But lately, she’s been extremely distant. She shoots down most of my attempts to see her, and she doesn’t even bother with excuses anymore, we didn’t talk much on the phone as she preferred to do it in person, but now we don’t talk on the phone at all.

Whenever we see each other, she pretends nothing is wrong. We both hate conflict and are avoiding the must-have conversation, so I’m looking for advice on what I should do, because I have no idea whether we’re even still together or not. I really love her, and it drives me crazy, because I want her to be happy. But she is used to getting everything she wants and being the favourite wherever she goes.