“I don’t know how to break up with him”

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I don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend. I love him, but it feels like everyday we argue over the smallest things and it always feels like it’s gonna end, it never does but I feel like we just compromise to get over it and not really talk about it. He also talks to a lot of girls that he says are just friends but he once had a thing with before us, and I can’t help but be scared and I tell him this.

Also, I really need someone who would be willing to at least look into my church but he said he won’t convert and that’s kind of a loss for me.

I also have this weird feeling that if we stay together he’d be my last person I’ll be with, and I just feel like I need a get more dating out of my system sorta. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for almost a year which I know, sounds kinda stupid but it’s been bothering me.

 

“He doesn’t want me to get implants”

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My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 2 years, we own a home together, vehicles as well as animals, but still not engaged.

I have thought about getting breast implants since I was probably 16 years old (I’m 20 now, almost 21 & my boyfriend just turned 21). I am currently a 34B and would like to see myself as a 34/36C. I just recently brought it up to him and he said he doesn’t want me to get them because he likes my body the way it is.

I understand… but that doesn’t make me not want them anymore. It’s hard for me to take no for an answer. When I told him I at least wanted to go to a consultation he got really upset and said he would leave me if I even went to a consultation since he didn’t want me to go. I think he just said that out of anger considering how serious we are. But I need advice and help on how to get him to at least consider it.

 

“I regret not pursuing love for this guy”

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I’ve had an ongoing romance with my first love since I was 14. We had met and dated for just over a year before shit became too much. I’m about to turn 22 and even though we have had relationships with other people and am now currently both in relationships with people we both care about, we still feel the need and desire for each other. It’s like I know when he’s thinking of me, or ill get a thought about him just before he contacts me. And when we don’t speak for however long, we both tend to dream about one another and we begin to miss each other until we get in touch and than it’s like a big feeling of relief.

I have a partner and I’m grateful for him, he treats me like a queen and I genuinely want to be with this man and have kids and grow old etc. but I feel guilty for always feeling drawn back to my ex and even worse that it’s the same for him despite us being with other people.

I’ve only been with my partner for a year now but 3 years ago when I was working in a hospital, I met an elderly lady in one of the wards that I’d speak to regularly. She would cry a lot and I’d ask her what was wrong and she’d always tell me how much she regrets not being with the man she always longed for. She said she had a great husband and they had a good life but that she had always been in love with another man and it wasn’t until she had become much older that she realised how much she regrets not pursuing their love for one another and I use to always think about that story because I could feel the truth in it, I could feel her heart ache but I always found myself wondering how she could have stayed with a man even though she knew she was in love with someone else…. 3 years later and I find that she was teaching me a lesson without even knowing it. I don’t know what to do.

 

“I don’t like the way he touches me”

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I have had many problems with my boyfriend but we always work it out. Or at least I thought we did. We had a big fight recently and he confessed a lot of feelings he had kept bottled up for a long time and the thing that bothered me the most was the way he talked about a problem we had with consent.

I told him I didn’t like being touched many times and almost every time he tried I would move his hand away and/or tell him no or to stop. He has stopped since we had a very serious conversation about how violated it made me feel when he ignored me and kept insisting and guilt tripping and pressuring me to do things I didn’t want to. He ended up crying and apologizing over and over and said he didn’t realize what he was doing and he stopped doing things I didn’t want. But when we were fighting he brought it up and said “oh yeah like when you apparently felt like I ‘assaulted’ you or something” and asked how I can touch him and then “act like” I don’t want him to touch me. We’ve had a lot of misunderstandings because of the way he sometimes words things incorrectly but I really don’t know how to go about this.

“I wish I could have a normal, loving father “

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I hate my father. He gets angry for no reason, & calls me hateful, hurtful things. He’s a perfectionist, and a little thing like a picture not being straight will set him off. Everything is never his fault, always mine or my mother’s, even when it’s obvious it isn’t.

I wish I could have a normal, loving father who I wouldn’t have to live in fear from. Even saying something wrong will set him off, like ‘have you seen my phone?’. He refuses any of my remedies, I offer to do things but he refuses, does it angrily, cursing me all the time. I’m too young to leave this home, & I need advice.

 

“I don’t want to go through with this marriage”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything was going fine then we started arguing everyday. When he’s around and we argue he gets in my face and yells louder. When I try to leave wherever we are at, so I can have a break away from him, he prevents me from leaving.

He calls me names everyday and even called me a “sly little bitch” because I was in the living room with my 6 year old sister and didn’t want to get in a fight over the phone. I love him but I also want to leave. We are supposed to get married in 5 months but I’m not sure if I really want to go through with it, I don’t want things to get worse. I’m not sure what to do. Yes I have tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to care. When I tried to talk to him about the argument today he just said he was tired and was going to bed.

“I’m not sure why he’s being distant”

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So I have been with this guy I met off Tinder for about 6 months. I met him in March of 2017 and ended things with him in May 2017 since he didn’t want to be in a relationship and I did. He came back around during the summer in June and told me how much he fucked up, how much he was trying to resist the person he truly wanted.

So, me being the one who still had major feelings for this guy – I gave in and we started talking again. Our relationship seems to be organic, we can be ourselves with each other, it’s so comfortable being around him. But it seems like I am always the one who opens up to him and tells him how much I like him and don’t want to lose him, etc. He recently graduated and went back to his mom’s for a few weeks but now he doesn’t really talk to me. Continue reading →

“I like him but he’s creeping me out”

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There is this guy who was an acquaintance of mine who somehow got my phone number 6 years ago. He texted me and I texted back because I didn’t see any harm in it. I found funny pictures to send or sometimes we would just chat about our day. I guess a friendship sort of developed from this, but from the beginning he’s been trying to push for a romantic relationship that I have never shown any interest in.

He sometimes texts me creepy comments or takes my pictures of of my social media and types text over them, about how bad he wants me and he sends them to me or posts then on my wall. Today he recorded himself saying my name and making weird noises, and sent it to me and it was super creepy and uncomfortable. I told him that but he said he was trying to be funny. It was not.

I’m really shy and I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. And I feel like some of it is my fault because I continued to talk to him even though I was not interested.

Lately I ignore his texts for days at a time but end up responding because I feel bad because he’s been there when I needed to talk for the last 6 years! Honestly, he creeps me out so much but I don’t know how else I can tell him without hurting him.

Please help me.

 

“I’m pregnant with a felon’s baby”

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I need some advice. Sorry in advance, its pretty long.

Back Story: I met a man in January of 2017 and for the sake of discretion we will call him…Shawn. I met him through work. I am the secretary for the company I work for. I work in the office at a cleaning company, and he got hired as a cleaner. It’s just a small cleaning company and almost 100% of our employees are felons or have done jail time at some point in their life and our company is one of the few that hires “jail birds”. As the secretary, all of the workers/cleaners (mostly men) know me and are very protective of me in a sense, since they are all older men (40+) and I am 23. This particular man got hired in late January of 2017, almost 1 year ago. He was 39, I was 22. For some odd reason, I became immediately attracted to him. He was fine as hell, for a 40 year old man. Even though I knew he was a felon, even though I knew he didn’t have shit to his name, didn’t have a car or money or his own place, even though I knew he had been in and out of jail and prison since he was pretty much 18, even though something about him seemed a little….not right, we started messing around. Discreetly, of course…because, duh, I’m the company secretary, I would die if any other employees found out. Continue reading →

“Could she get pregnant?”

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Inexperienced, so a little embarrassed to ask. But here we go, was fooling around with someone and in the process I premature ejaculated in my shorts (didn’t wipe my penis afterwards due to excitement)  After a minute goes by she says to grab a condom.. I do, it’s dark, and having trouble putting it on, may have put it on the wrong way at first (not sure) .. we don’t get deep into penetration at all, the mood is killed, so we stop. Is it possible for my partner to get pregnant at all due to these mishaps…