“My best friend hates my boyfriend”

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One of my best girl friends has started acting a bit suspicious when it comes to getting together with others. It’s starting to feel like she is tactfully excluding my boyfriend and I’m wondering who is in the wrong and how to address this situation.

Let me start off by saying, I love a girls night! I’m perfectly content ditching our boyfriends, fiances, and husbands for a night just us girls. This is not the issue. The problem is other times, when we are all going out (brunch at a restaurant, drinks at a bar, a get together at a mutual friend’s house) where there will be people of both genders, she makes it a point to exclude my boyfriend. I’m not sure how it affects her if my boyfriend is there or not. Let me give some examples:

Brunch with a group of friends, she told me “no boyfriends allowed” per one of the men attending’s request. I found this odd and decided not to go. Funny thing is, we actually ended up meeting the said man before the brunch and he asked why we weren’t joining them.

A bunch of our friends are all getting drinks at an outdoor bar this weekend, there is a Facebook event for it. She invited me and the other girls in our friend group but none of our boyfriends, even though they are friends with a lot of the people attending.

There have been many situations like these and it doesn’t seem to be just my boyfriend she excludes, 2 of my other girl friends have boyfriends as well and she excludes them the same.

My question is, if other guys are going to be at these events, why is it an issue if we bring our SOs? These are public places and they have every right to be there. I don’t really understand how our partner’s presence affects her, besides the fact that we aren’t available to make small talk with other men, who think we’re single.

Are we both in the wrong? Or just one of us? Is there something I should do to address this moving forward?

“He hasn’t said I love you”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. He is incredible! He is my best friend and we get along very well. I have met his family multiple times and they seem to really like me. He has met mine and they really like him. We discuss buying a home together and he is currently looking for a job to relocate to live in my city (we currently live 2 hours away from each other). The only issue is that he hasn’t said “I love you”.

I know it sounds silly but I truly believe the guy should say it first. I waited until after we hit our year anniversary before I brought it up. He said he very much sees a future with me and hopes his actions speak for his feelings but wasn’t ready to say it as he had been burned in the past. We both agreed we hoped for a better moment than that so it would be happening in the near future. So I waited… Continue reading →

“He’s overweight, has poor hygiene, but I like him!”

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I’m dating this guy, we’ve known each other for 8 months now. We started hanging out as friends, but approx. 2 months ago we kissed for the first time, and since then it’s starting to get kinda serious. It’s funny because we weren’t expecting it, it just happened for some reasons.

Problem: I don’t find him attractive. He has a cute face, but he is quite overweight and doesn’t seem to take care of himself at all. And trust me, I’m not that picky when it comes to looks and body hygiene… Continue reading →

“He dumped me when it made his friendship awkward”

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This is a long post, but it’s a long story.  I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally, and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he’s also in love with a girl at work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feelings, and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.

Enter my messy life. Continue reading →

“Is he sleeping with a prostitute?”

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I’m in a fairly new relationship but things have moved fast and we are expecting a baby in a few months. My boyfriend has a lot of friends male and female. I have no reason to not trust him. I found out today that one female friend, who he is particularly close to, works as a prostitute and he use to pay her for sex while single.

He has never told me this, though he has said they have known each other a long time and he initially met her again on Tinder (before me). My past relationship was very bad and he knows this, and that it left me insecure. My ex frequently went to prostitutes and had numerous affairs and online inappropriate behavior.

My question is, am I right to suddenly feel very, very uncomfortable about this friendship? He has never told me about her line of work etc let alone that he paid for her services (I do know he had been to a brothel tho as he did tell me this). I’m partly wondering if he hasn’t told me because he knows the damage my ex left on me and he really does just value the friendship (she is a lovely person). Or is it not all it seems and not so innocent ?? I don’t want to let my baggage cause me to overreact here but I feel I’d be doing an injustice to myself to do nothing …

“I’m frustrated with my job”

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I am not sure if this is what the site is intended for, but, I have just wanted to rant without coming off as complaining to my friends.

I just feel like a failure. I feel like I am not good at anything. Very frustrated at work, even though my job is unfulfilling and I don’t feel as if I am contributing to anything meaningful, I still try and care a lot. I feel like there is never any feedback or recognition for the effort that I put in, once in a while a “good job” would go along way. I wish I was doing something more fulfilling and to do what I would like to do that means more schooling and wanting to start a family soon, I don’t know I could handle having a newborn and school. And the change itself is kinda scary to give up the job security that I have, for potential happiness in my work life and happy in general.

“My boyfriend and family are not getting on”

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I was set up by my aunt and my boyfriends aunt a bit over a year ago. We get along amazingly, we lived together for a few months and again it was amazing. He wants to create a happy and healthy family for us.

I have a group of friends that he has met a few times. One of them just married a guy that sells small amounts of marijuana and my boyfriend has also heard him gossiping about his own friends and about a few people in my family. I also have a cousin who is involved in selling drugs. Continue reading →

“Why is he going MIA on me?”

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I’ve been at this company for a year and worked under the direction of one of the top execs of the company – he’s married. Over the course of a few months, I started to pick up on an attraction from him; long and very intense eye contact, and at other times he cannot make eye contact with me at all. This only ignited a spark in me and suddenly I was paying closer attention. I tried to downplay, tell myself to ignore it all, it is what it is and let it be.  Continue reading →

“Is he bipolar?”

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What do I do … I don’t know where to turn for help? My man is a perfect gentleman most of the time, but will switch to a Demon in seconds?

I have been in a relationship with my man for 2 years. The 1st year was on/off, since we lived in different cities. The 2nd year he moved in with me, and we became serious. We both fell in love quickly! When he is normal, he does more for me than anyone I have ever been with. He’s affectionate, loving, giving, and true to me. Continue reading →

“I love him but he’s terrible in bed”

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I waited until I was married to have sex. I loved him, for better or worse for 10 years. He was terrible in bed. He hurt me. If I tried to give him suggestions in bed, he’d get mad and it would end in a fight. Sex always became a source of tension. I didn’t know any better and thought this is what sex was.

After a decade of fighting, we planned a divorce, I started seeing someone else and had sex with a stranger for the first time. It was earth-shatteringly good. Exactly what I imagined sex would be like and more.

But I reconciled with my husband because I realized I loved him. Problem is, he is still terrible in bed and I don’t know what to do now that I know it’s him, and not sex in general. I love him, he’s a great father to my kids, but sex is important. Do I destroy it all for good sex? Live without sex? Cheat? Help me!