My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We stopped using condoms when we ran out, a few months into our relationship. Today, while doing laundry, I felt something in his pocket, so I pulled it out, so whatever it was wouldn’t get washed. I found 2 condoms. Is this a sure sign that he is cheating on me?
I am a married man in the military. My wife and I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. I have been in the military 8 years. She hates my job and everything that comes with it. She wants me to move us from our current posting, that she hates, to somewhere new.
Then leave the military in 3-4 years, when my current contract ends. I want a full career, 20+ years, and love my job. Our marriage is tempestuous and she has trust issues. What do I do? Stay in my career but probably get divorced, or give it up and hopefully stay married?
We’ve been friends for 15 years. I helped her through so many bad periods. But recently (the past several years) she’s gotten so annoying. She’s always been a bit extreme in her opinions. Vegetarian, super against killing animals, pro freedom ect ect. But she developed it into far extremes. She went for example for a waste-free life. A good cause sure, but she got angry when we spend the night there and I brought locally grown, pesticide free peanuts (I though I’d please her with it) which so happen to be packages in a cheap plastic bag. She got so mad saying she did not want trash in her house. Continue reading
So I am having a really hard time deciding if I should stay with my current boyfriend of 3 years. When I first met him I was 100% sure he was “the one”. We have shared a lot of good times and a lot of bad. I’ve been told by a lot of people that I shouldn’t settle for him and that there is better out there for me.
Part of me believes it, and another part can’t stand the idea of him being with anyone but me. My best friend told me to make a good and bad list and though the bad list is longer, there’s a lot of value to me in the good list. Continue reading
I met this girl at clothing store. I was with my daughter. I wrote my phone number on the receipt and gave it to her. She texts me a couple of days later. We set up a date and she shows up late, she said she couldn’t find the place, which was odd, but I went to meet her and help her find the place. The date was shorter because of this, so we hiked for about 1/2 hr, and talked for another 40 min. It was nice, there seemed to be chemistry.
We continued to text for several days and sometimes phone interaction, things still seemed okay, however I tried to set up another date. She sort of had excuses. Realized that she was a friend of the bottle. Continue reading
I have a few issues I would like to discuss here. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 17 months. We’re very close and pretty much never spend any time apart. However, sometimes he does things that are hurtful.
It doesn’t happen often, just once in a while. Like today he said “I wish you wouldn’t be commenting loving messages on my social media. I like it and all but I want you to keep those things between us.” Continue reading
5 months ago I started dating a guy from work, and it was a total dream come true. He’s smart, driven, mature, career started, and a nice change for my age group, a handy man. But I don’t know if it was the trust issues from my ex, or what, but I went though his phone this weekend and found out he had been using Tinder, and hookers (multiple) before he met me.
So here’s the issue, I’m the kinda girl that thinks Tinder is where dreams go to die. I have never, and will never hook up with anyone, and am really careful with STDs. I’ve made every guy I’ve been with, give me a signed doctors note saying they have been tested (way to shoot romance in the face right?)
I confronted him and he told me the truth and that he was ashamed, and just so lonely. He kinda told me about this stuff before I found it, so I gotta give him credit for that. But he did lie, and he only lied because he knew I would have left him if I found this out earlier. He had been single basically his whole life, and has a lot of family issues. Does that make it okay? Should I overlook this? Do people get a “ do over” button when they start a new relationship? He said that most people our age are like this and no matter what guy I’m with, he will have done similar things. so now what?
I’ve been sharing a bed with, and pretty much living in my new girlfriend’s apartment for our entire relationship.
A little background on us before I explain the rest: I’m 20 and she’s 23, we work at the same place and have the same shift with different days off. She doesn’t go to school or have a degree, and I’m currently a full time student at an online university. We have a ton in common as far as our interests, likes, dislikes, and hobbies go. Really the only other thing worth mentioning maybe, is that she has a 3 year old and shares joint custody with her ex boyfriend, but that doesn’t really bother me at all.
Anyways, I feel like I need some advice… Continue reading
My boyfriend got me pregnant three months ago and ever since we’ve found out, he’s practically stopped talking to me. He doesn’t want me to tell anyone about it, or even talk to him about it, and I don’t know what to do, because we’re running out of time and I want to keep it.
He’s slowly becoming more distant and people have repeatedly been telling him he should break up with me (they don’t know about the baby). I was panicking one night after we had a fight and didn’t know where to go – I messaged one of our mutual friends, (call him m) to look for advice. He helped me so much and ever since, him and I have been getting closer. I’m scared because I’m getting feelings for him, and losing them for my boyfriend. M and I have been talking a lot lately and I doubt he has any feelings for me at all, but I can’t help it. I feel like I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. I just want to do what’s right for the baby and I don’t know if that would be me staying with it’s biological father, or me being with someone who actually wants it and cares about the both of us.
They’ve been together for 10 years now, but he only chooses to hang out with her family about once a year. This time, he blew off her dad’s birthday dinner, but chose to attend a last-minute housewarming party for a coworker. Here are their sides of the story:
Chunkie says:
I asked my boyfriend to accompany me to a birthday dinner for my dad. Gave him almost a week notice because he is very busy with work. I don’t usually bug him about coming to family events because of his busy/stressful job. He told me he couldn’t go to my dad’s dinner because he had a lot of work to do, so I didn’t ask again.
The day before the dinner, he was supposed to come over after we both got off work. When I was driving home, I called him to see if he was heading out too. He said that he was at a coworker’s house for a housewarming party. He had been invited last-minute and was supposedly only there for 20 minutes, but I have no way to know for sure the length of the stay.
The next day, he did not go to the dinner. (The dinner was an hour away, and we would have had to go after work around 6 pm). My frustration is that he was willing to drop what he was doing for a last-minute event for a coworker, but was unwilling/unable to attend the dinner that would have taken about 4 hours of his time.
Side note: we’ve been dating for 10 years, and he has not met 95% of my paternal family. He has met 20% of my maternal family basically because we live in the same city, but he only goes to an event about once a year at most.
Chubby says:
I have a very demanding job that currently is only able to be done by me. I go above and beyond expectations for the things that are due by me. I am uncomfortable meeting new people and don’t speak the same language as my girlfriend’s family. I have deadlines to meet by the end of the year and couldn’t afford give up more than 4 hours of my time due to work.
I was invited to a coworker’s housewarming party where my boss was gonna attend as well, and I didn’t want to let everyone down or refuse to go at all. I only attended for 20 minutes and then left. I don’t think I did anything wrong. I don’t understand why my girlfriend is upset with me for not going to the dinner.
So is this reasonable? Should she be mad at him? Or did he have a valid reason to attend the coworker housewarming, but not her dad’s birthday?
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