I’m 20 years old and i was dating this guy who is 27. We dated for about a year about two years ago then he broke up with me because he said he didn’t feel it was the right time for him and i that he wanted to take time for himself. After he broke up with me he wanted to get back together almost a week later but i told him no because he said he wanted to take time for himself and that he should take that time and maybe i should as well. Despite the fact that we had broken up we continued to communicate and see each other often because his sister is my best friend. Fast forward two years later things continue he’s still in love with me and i love him but i don’t think the relationship will be the same anymore. I feel bad because he’s done so many good things for me, my mother loves him, his family is close with me.Him and his sister are pretty close and her being my best friend makes things weird because i feel like my relationship with her can be ruined because of him. At the same time i feel like because him and i still communicated and saw each other pretty often we never really experienced and actually break up and i’m starting to feel like i want to experience something new. Most recently i met a new guy who i really like a lot, and i kind of want to see where things go with him. I wanted to be honest with my ex boyfriend so i told him about the new guy and he completely broke down crying telling me he’s loved me for 2 years and here i am being interested in a new guy who i barely know, I’ve encouraged him to date other people since we broke up he just won’t do it and the new guy wanted to make things official but i told him i needed to work some things out before i could do that. So he told me it’s either him or the other guy and he told me not to speak to him until i have an answer. I don’t know what to do this confusion is killing me
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How to rebuild her trust?
I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 6 months. Everything has been great between us, but she has had many personal problems that she has had to deal with during that time. Mostly related to money.
We work at the same place, but different departments. I make much more than she does, and I have offered to help her many times because she means alot to me, but she has always turned down my help bease she didn’t want to be a pRobles for me.
A few weeks ago she told me about alot of new problems that came up, and I was worried about her, and if she was going to be ok. She made it sound like there was no way out of a bad situation. Eventually she didn’t want to talk to me about it anymore because she didn’t want to be a burden on me, and I just wanted to help in any way I could.
I was so worried, and felt like I had to do something, and I made the mistake of saying something to her manager about it. At the time it seemed like a good idea, because I know she really respected him and has confided in him about a lot of personal things in the past, but she saw it as me breaking her trust in something she told me in confidence. I’ve tried to appoligize, but she doesn’t want to talk to me about it. I know I did something stupid, but I wasn’t thinking clearly. All I did was worry constantly about what would happen to her and her kids, and in the fog of it all I had horrible judgment, and made a stupid choice despite my good intentions. Is there anything I can do to rebuild her trust in me? Even if she doesn’t want to be in a relationship, I really just want her to know that I never meant to hurt her, but I was just going crazy with worry, and I wasn’t thinking clearly, so I made a bad decision.
I am suddenly shocked between love and hatred
This fellow made me,for too long fall in love with him,at seeing him at a session ,again in my house he was seen with orange hair on his shoulder that was,nt for him and me ,non of both,s.Then he loved me,but now I thought he had been hating me?
mixed feelings
hi, I don’t even know where to start, it’s quite confusing really. I guess I will start with me hating this person to death, then after a bit I started growing to like them, a lot. We are co-workers, he is a couple months younger than I am, we have a love/hate thing going on, like sometimes we loath each other and sometimes we flirt with each other, without even realising it. Our other co-workers see it, but we deny it. I’m not sure he knows I like him, and I think he sorta likes me back. The only problem is, his sister is one of the managers at my work, so there are limitations, meaning we can never be together. I don’t know what to do, he is always in my head, can’t seem to get him out, no matter how hard I try. We are both teenagers, I’m 17. Please help me out in this situation, I don’t know how much longer I can go without telling him that I like him and not get embarrassed and humiliated, or being fired by his sister..
Am I too overweight to date a great and attractive guy? :(
Hey!
So, a little back story: I was in a very bad relationship for 7 years and have 3 children. My ex started a new job and within 3 weeks, he found a new coworker/girlfriend. Thus, leaving me and our three children. I was constantly put down and told I couldn’t do things, it was a pretty rough situation. Despite the circumstances, I’m happy it’s over and I’m free.
I have my children all the time (except when I’m working) and I’m happy about this… but a year has passed and I signed up for a dating site, not really looking, just seeing what was out there. And I met a GREAT guy.
I mean, perfect. Has kids and is a great dad, great job, incredibly funny and keeps me laughing, EXTREMELY handsome. And there lies the problem.
I’m not sure if my self esteem is just way down or if my feelings are legit. I feel hideous. He calls me beautiful all of the time and other things, so he’s obviously attracted to me, right?
We’ve been talking for two months and he really wants to just hang out. It shouldn’t be that hard. But I feel like my pictures are unintentionally misleading. My face is good, my body is a mess. I’ve taken pictures but they’re at great angles or something because they don’t seem to capture how heavy I really think I look.
I weigh about 200 pounds from terrible diet, back to back pregnancies, and lack of exercise. I’ve recently been going to the gym and lost 38 lbs. But I still feel like a huge monster.
I know he likes me and I like him, but I don’t want him to meet me and he be disappointed and me miss out on a great guy because he’s not physically attracted to me. Physical attraction isn’t everything but it’s still somewhat important.
My issue is, I could look great in 6 months to a year. I could lose weight and be good enough, but if I meet him now, I could ruin it.
Do I just get this over with and meet him? I know he wont wait forever. How can I get over this feeling? How do I handle it if he’s disappointed in what he’s meeting…
Any advice…?
Complex relationships
So my situation was pretty complicated, I knew this guy for about 4 months but just as friends before we started talking, and then we had a few conversations and then we started to meet up, on our first meet up we ended up both getting really drunk and having sex, i regretted at first but he wasnt a dick about it so i got over it, I was planning on going to uni pretty soon and he is older and works full time so we only got to meet up a few times before i moved 3 hours away. Suprisingly when i got to uni we kept in contact and i started to get feelings for him, and then one day i found out I was pregnant, my first thought was to get rid of it as I was too young we didnt really know each other that well, I had only just started uni, but her managed to convince, based on religion we had to keep the child, and due to my growing feelings for him and religious views i eventually changed my mind and decided to keep it. i ended up traveliing down to see him every weekend and weve spent pretty much every weekend for the past 6 months together. Our realtionship is complicated as we beginning to get close before i found out i was pregnant and then when i did find out things becamise even more so accelerated, i knew the kind of guy he was and it didnt really bother me, he had told me that he had cheated in past relationships in order to prevent him from getting ‘bored’ and i accepted that and because things werent that serious it didnt really bother me if he was talking to other people or not. After a while things did start to get pretty serious, like discussing our futures together, the child we had on the way and decided we wanted to raise the child together and have a family together, discusing marriage meeting each others parents the whole ordeal. For me i felt like even though we hadnt offically decided that we were in a realtionship the same rules counted and although i knew he texted other gilrs every know and again, we spend all our free time together so it didnt really bother me cause i knew he wasnt sleeping with them or meeting up with them and thought i would eventually be enough and he get bored of them. Until today i made the decison to go through his phone when i was alone and discovered that a month ago he had meet up with 3 of these girls, i dont know what had happened when he meet up with them, i also discovered that one of the girls he had downplayed their realtionship to me and they had actually only ended because she had broken up with him and he had been still seeing her whilst seeing me and he knew i was pregant. At first when reading the messages i was angry and i had clearly been cheated on, but as angry as i was i cant just walk away from the situation as we have a child on the way, then i wanted to confront him, but i had no right to go through his phone and i wouldnt have appreciated it if he ever went throught me phone, and then i was sad because i felt like i having been giving my all and him still being interested in other girls shows that i wont ever be good enough, and even though im upset i dont want to be without him, but i dont what i can do that will satisfy him that he wont feel the need to talk to other girls, he gives me the impression that im all he wants, and i didnt necessarily find anything that says he slept with the other gilrs just met up with them, and i know theres no point in confronting him about it cause he will just hid it better, i just want to know if theres anythig i can do to stop him from seeking company in other girls
Does he like me?
I really like this guy, and i’m in middle school. Sometimes he will act like he definitally likes me. I will catch him staring at me, and he will sometimes smile and sometimes look away. I don’t know what to do. We have mutual friends and classes, but he is sending mixed messages. What do you think? does he like me? what should i do?
What to do when the unexpected happens??
So I am in huge idk what to even call it. Anywho, I am currently in a relationship with the love of my life, I truly want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, we have a baby who turns 1 next week. 3 weeks after I had our son, my partner did the worst thing (I feel) to me, he cheated…. This has been so hard this entire year it has changed my views on like EVERYTHING in life. anyways I just recently got in a better place emotionally, mentally, & spiritually. But I just found out i am expecting another child 😦 So I am just kind of loss as to what I should do? This isn’t much about the relationship but moreso the pregnancy. I know this is touchy, but please just say what you would do if it were you. I am desperate right now!
Thank you.
Help, I want to break up with a very possesive woman
Hi, I have been with this woman for 6 months and realize that i made a very big mistake letting her move in before i knew her properly. She kept talking on and on about marriage and kids ad nauseum till i decided to tell her that we break it off because i was absolutely not ready. She begged and pleaded till we somehow reconciled, but ever since, the love i had has waned till now i feel that being with her is a big inconvenience to my career dreams.
She wants all my free time to be with her. if i tell her ill be back in 30 mins, 10 minutes later, shell start calling wanting minute by minute updates on where i am. I am an engineer by profession and that means extra money comes when i do work outside the job i have. I havent got a single dime outside my job for the time we have been together.
I have tried all ways to break up including telling her that my parents did not approve of the relationship but she says shes not ready to let me go. I feel trapped because of the following things i discovered
1. Shes a year older than me
2. She has a kid from a previous relationship, something ive tried to unsuccessfuly ignore
3. She doesnt seem to have any hobbies, Nothing we seem to have in common. So, how do i break this off quick and painless
4. Even if she works, she NEVER has money, (or so she says coz ive peeped once or twice into her bag and surely, she has money)
5. Her cooking skills are wanting
6. She gets absolutely absent minded when shes on the phone. Wants to cook or do other things while talking on phone and for long hours
7. She doesnt seem to care about impressing me anymore, feels she settled
8. Recently i stopped complaining about her flaws and started plotting an exit strategy, but she is taking my silence now to be my expression of my love.
should I trust blindly or take a stand and risk losing my partner
I want to trust my bf but I have a bad feeling about a girl we know. She was someone I have known long before I knew him. She has always been toxic. I have repeatedly told him I am not comfortable with her texting him or being on his facebook. Each time I have mentioned it he has blown up. He calls me psycho and says he is going to leave me. Keep in mind I have never acted jealous, only wanted to let him know that I do not want this toxic person in or lives. Something I said about her to him got back to me. That means my bf is still talking to her even though he knows I am deeply bothered by it. Okay so now that you know that part you must know this. All of the people mentioned including myself are middleaged. I own the house but I don’t have a job, My bf pays all of the bills. I was cheated on by others and I always got this same feeling. Its terrible to have someone who is jealous especially if you are not doing anything but at the same time I think I have the right to protect myself. Help me out please, I need some guidance. signed Camire~
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