Help, I want to break up with a very possesive woman

Hi, I have been with this woman for 6 months and realize that i made a very big mistake letting her move in before i knew her properly. She kept talking on and on about marriage and kids ad nauseum till i decided to tell her that we break it off because i was absolutely not ready. She begged and pleaded till we somehow reconciled, but ever since, the love i had has waned till now i feel that being with her is a big inconvenience to my career dreams.

She wants all my free time to be with her. if i tell her ill be back in 30 mins, 10 minutes later, shell start calling wanting minute by minute updates on where i am. I am an engineer by profession and that means extra money comes when i do work outside the job i have. I havent got a single dime outside my job for the time we have been together.

I have tried all ways to break up including telling her that my parents did not approve of the relationship but she says shes not ready to let me go. I feel trapped because of the following things i discovered

1. Shes a year older than me
2. She has a kid from a previous relationship, something ive tried to unsuccessfuly ignore
3. She doesnt seem to have any hobbies, Nothing we seem to have in common. So, how do i break this off quick and painless
4. Even if she works, she NEVER has money, (or so she says coz ive peeped once or twice into her bag and surely, she has money)
5. Her cooking skills are wanting
6. She gets absolutely absent minded when shes on the phone. Wants to cook or do other things while talking on phone and for long hours
7. She doesnt seem to care about impressing me anymore, feels she settled
8. Recently i stopped complaining about her flaws and started plotting an exit strategy, but she is taking my silence now to be my expression of my love.

7 thoughts on “Help, I want to break up with a very possesive woman

  1. resullins says:

    [She is clingy, and you are an asshole. Plain and simple.

    It doesn’t matter in the slightest that she’s a year older than you. That’s your machismo peaking out. It doesn’t matter that she can’t cook. Can you? Do you? Why is it her place to cook? Because she’s a woman? That’s bullshit and you know it. Why does she need to impress you? When was the last time you attempted to impress her? This isn’t a one-way street. You’re going through her bag? This one speaks for itself.

    You’re completely ignoring her KID?!?!?! I will use my context clues to deduce that perhaps you didn’t know about this child before you moved in with the woman (we’ll call her Jill for ease of typing). That definitely makes her a liar, and possibly a bad mother. But you still can’t IGNORE the fact that she has a child! That’s insane.

    Break up with her, leave her, make her move out, whatever. You two do not need to be in a relationship together. You two may not need to be in relationships at all. Both of you have some issues you need to work on.

  2. DavidIsGreat says:

    [You aren’t doing anybody any favors by staying in this thing any longer. Do the grown-up thing, have the conversation, and move on.

  3. Peter says:

    [Ok, Thanks guys I think i might have fooled myself way too long. Yesterday we had a really long talk, after which she kept calling the whole night to do post mortem on the breakup, but i think its over now. I dont know why i neither feel happy nor sad

    • Dennis Hong says:

      [If you feel neither happy nor sad, then that tells me the relationship has definitely run its course for you.

      I think we all agree you’re making the right decision here.

    • resullins says:

      [Yeah… indifference isn’t what you want in a relationship.

      Way to make the right decision! Now, stick to it.

  4. Anonymous says:

    [That woman is kept desperately in an aquarium first,but you are good that have at least lots of money,but she has to be brought out the aquarium with lots of advice .

  5. Anonymous says:

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