What to do when the unexpected happens??

So I am in huge idk what to even call it. Anywho, I am currently in a relationship with the love of my life, I truly want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, we have a baby who turns 1 next week. 3 weeks after I had our son, my partner did the worst thing (I feel) to me, he cheated…. This has been so hard this entire year it has changed my views on like EVERYTHING in life. anyways I just recently got in a better place emotionally, mentally, & spiritually. But I just found out i am expecting another child 😦 So I am just kind of loss as to what I should do? This isn’t much about the relationship but moreso the pregnancy. I know this is touchy, but please just say what you would do if it were you. I am desperate right now!
Thank you.

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2 thoughts on “What to do when the unexpected happens??

  1. nightowl says:

    [I’m not quite sure what you are asking for advice on here…although you say it’s about the pregnancy and not the relationship….are you sure? I agree with you – cheating on you when you had just had a baby together was pretty shit. I’m hoping that because you say you are in a better place this means that you have worked through this together and that he has made an effort to show you he is sorry he messed up. Has he? You say he is the love of your life and you want to spend the rest of your life with him so if this is the case then the second pregnancy shouldn’t really be that much of an issue. Unless you have decided you both don’t want more children or something? If you are in a good place and you trust and love this person what is the problem with another baby? Why does being pregnant again make any difference to your situation if he is the one for you?

  2. DavidIsGreat says:

    [I say this with a lot of respect. You do not need to stay with a partner for the sake of a child. Nor do you need to leave a partner just because of a cheating incident.

    If you and your partner can work through the cheating incident you can stay together and be healthy. It is not always a death sentence to a relationship.

    And if it is the other way you do not need to stay in a partnership that doesn’t work just because of a child. Too many people think they’re doing the children a favor instead of taking care of their own health.

    The thing you’re asking about sounds like what I think it sounds like. You have options even if you may struggle with the morality of these options. You need to do what’s best for you. I personally would keep it and make it work. With or without the guy.

    But I’m a. 30-something male with a partner dual income and a decent job. It might be objectively easier for me in my circumstances to have another unexpected baby. Take what I say with a grain of salt.

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