“Our friends think we’re perfect together, but I don’t know how she feels about me”

Hi! I’m not going to tell you my age, but I’m fairly young. Recently, one of my friends introduced me to this girl. She’s super-nice and funny, and my friends seem to think we’re basically the exact same person.

We talk almost every day, by text in the morning and Skype at night. And we sometimes go out and do things, but it’s never gone that far. Some people think we should date, and one person even said she is into me.

What are your thoughts on the matter? I’d appreciate some advice.

“My boyfriend is abusive, but I can’t afford to leave him”

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for five years, and we have a three-year-old daughter. We have a lot of issues, though. Should I stay? How do I leave?

My boyfriend doesn’t support my dreams. He tells me I can’t do what I love and that I am too much of a dreamer. I want to be a teacher and travel someday. On top of this, he doesn’t have much ambition to do anything great in his lifetime.

He is verbally abusive often and sometimes mildly physically abusive (throwing food/small things at me, breaking my things, etc.). He says things to me on a regular basis that most people don’t hear their whole lives. Horrible things that cut me deep. He blows things way out of proportion whether its me or some other factor that upsets him.

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“I’m bored with my relationship, but isn’t that normal?”

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year-and-a-half, and have been living together for eight months. When we moved in, we fought a lot.

Even though we have resolved those issues, i have thoughts of being with different people, fantasizing what it might be like. I read that its normal to be attracted to other people while committed, but I almost have a feeling of dissatisfaction, or boredom.

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“I love him, but he wants me to go for his best friend”

I have a friend that I have known since I was 4, and I am now 22. I stated liking him back in grade 6 ( when I was 11), started really liking him in high school, but never did anything because he was my brother’s good friend.

Well, coming home from school this January, I started talking to him again, and I fell even harder than I ever thought I would. He told be I was his first crush and that he has always liked me “like that.” Recently, we had a downfall with a lie that was started though his ex and mine. It tore us apart. He said he needed time, and I respected that. During this time, it seemed as though he lost all interest in ever being with me.

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“Can I forgive him, or should I leave?”

I’ve been with my boyfriend 15 months, living together for 6. I’m 27.

Up until a week ago, my life revolved around this man. I never believed in soulmates or anything, but he was my best friend. He made me feel like it could be true. I trusted him with my life.

About a week ago, I was talking to a friend about a girl my boyfriend used to live with. My boyfriend had told me this girl was obsessed with him, that she had kissed him on the cheek once, but that was it. Nothing else had ever happened.

I had a niggling feeling, and I remember asking him a few times about this girl. Each time he got cross and told me I had to trust him.

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“After the break, would an apology gift be appropriate?”

My boyfriend and I are currently on a break because I lied about my past. I felt so guilty and wrong that I eventually told him the truth after I built up the courage to do so. I knew that telling him would hurt his feelings, so I kept putting it off, until I felt I couldn’t keep it to myself any more.

He, quite rightly, feels hurt and doesn’t know if he can trust me, as he has been entirely honest with me about his past — a very difficult thing to do.

However, I believe that as our relationship was so strong before, we are still the same people, and the lie could eventually be forgiven, as it was said out of insecurity and fear, with no intention of causing harm.

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“Should I stay or should I go?”

I’m a mum of a lovely two-year-old who I love with all my heart. I’m with her dad at the moment, but we had a bit of an off/on relationship, although we’ve been together for about 10 years.

Problem is, he makes me feel so low about myself sometimes (especially after he’s had a drink). Even when our daughter calls out for mummy when she wakes up in the night, he blames me for “over-mothering” and making him feel like a bad father! I am a very hands-on mum and work in childcare. so my daughter spends a lot of time with me. which I personally think is great. as we have such a great relationship. But he makes me feel guilty about this so often!

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“Insecurity…”

Hi, I need your help and advice, please.

I have been seeing this girl for about 5 months now, and I think I’m in love with her. The problem, however, is her ex-boyfriend keeps calling and chatting her.

I have discussed how uncomfortable I am with that, but she claims there is nothing going on between them. Recently, she has been saving this guy’s profile pictures on her phone, and even had him as her bbm display once.

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