“Should I stay or should I go?”

I’m a mum of a lovely two-year-old who I love with all my heart. I’m with her dad at the moment, but we had a bit of an off/on relationship, although we’ve been together for about 10 years.

Problem is, he makes me feel so low about myself sometimes (especially after he’s had a drink). Even when our daughter calls out for mummy when she wakes up in the night, he blames me for “over-mothering” and making him feel like a bad father! I am a very hands-on mum and work in childcare. so my daughter spends a lot of time with me. which I personally think is great. as we have such a great relationship. But he makes me feel guilty about this so often!

I’m starting to think the only reason I’m with him is because of our daughter. But then, he is a good dad, and a majority of the time, he’s great. But I really don’t know if I can put up with the malicious comments! Just need some advice really, as I’m completely at my wit’s end. ūüė¶

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2 thoughts on ““Should I stay or should I go?”

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    Wait, are you the same person who posted “Learning to trust again?”

    If so, my advice stands. If he’s a good father, then let him be involved in your daughter’s life. But that doesn’t mean you have to be with him, especially if he treats you like shit.

    If you aren’t the same person … well, my advice in the other blurb stands, too.

  2. Drew says:

    I’m with Dennis here. If he’s a good dad let him be a dad. But he doesn’t sound like a good partner/boyfriend/husband.
    Let me pressure test the good dad thing though… Would you trust leaving your daughter with him for a weekend? A week? Given that you describe some rather negative behavioural patterns associated with alcohol consumption, how much do you really trust him?

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