Category: Advice Needed

“I freeze up whenever I try to talk to a girl”

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I’m a 23 year old male, and there’s this girl that I like. Problem is, I feel like I have no personality or an identity. The girl I like goes out a lot to drink and have fun and stuff, whereas I don’t do any of those things. There are many times where I want to break out of this shell and just go out, but, I just keep pulling myself back because I don’t really do that, and I’m afraid that I’ll be too boring.

I don’t go to parties because I’m the person that just sits down and never dances. I feel like I’m lost or something. I’m working minimum wage and some of my co-workers initiate conversations with me, but at the end of all of those conversations, I still feel empty. I can’t hold a conversation either, so I don’t know why they talk to me, but, I’m not going to say that to them. There are a lot of conflicting things happening to me, mentally. I see photos of my co-workers and their friends going out and having fun, and I just feel terrible. I feel like an old man inside a young body, and it sucks.

Anyway back to the girl. She’s the very opposite of me. Continue reading →

“How do I get away from my dysfunctional family?”

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Why are my parents so dumb?

You probably read that and said, “that’s no way to talk about your parents!” Well, once you read this, you’ll be asking the question too.

I grew up with ridicule, abuse, both physically and mentally, and neglect. They literally did not care about our health or well being, but only about our grades (which still turned out poorly due to all of this harsh abuse).

My mother smokes and gambles behind our backs. We tell her to stop, but she has a real gambling problem now. Constantly sneaking out, pouring thousands of dollars into slot machines. Leaving at 10:30pm and returning at 8am. She once withdrew so much money from my account, the bank had sent me emails about suspicious activity, soon finding out that it was my mom.

Now, my dad on the other hand, is another story. He’s selfish. Continue reading →

“Every time I try to get closer to him, he pushes me away”

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I lay there beside him, pain welling within my chest. My muscles tight, and shaking slightly. It was an anxiety attack, nothing new. I have been dealing with them for years, but, lately, they had begun getting worse. At times, they would last for hours, sometimes they lasted for days. I used to be able to control it. I would go for walks, listen to music, or play with the cat. Anything to distract myself. Those things didn’t work anymore, not since I met him.

Well, reunited would be a better word than met. I’ve known him off and on for years. He is damaged, like I am. Though, he isn’t weak, like I am. He’s been through so much; horrid relationships, psychotic friends, major depression, suicide attempts, drug addictions, overly judgmental family, and a sick, mentally abusive mother. All of that, and he still came out on top, He still fights to enjoy every second of life. His strength is one of the main things I love about him. I am drawn to it, like a moth to a bug light. One of those electric bug lights, because the closer I get to him, the more it hurts.  Continue reading →

“I was left out of a threesome”

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Anyone ever get left out of a threesome? The wife and I (we are mid 20’s) had a threesome awhile back. It ended up being just the girls that played. I would try to get involved and barely receive anything. Has this happened to anyone else? Do you think it’s more of me not being what the other girl wanted as far as looks?

Now we are trying again, but all the girls we talk to seem to only want her, which makes me happy for her. But it’s like well, fuck, I don’t want to just watch and thanks for making me feel like shit.

Are we just talking to girls that only want other girls, or am I that unattractive? Might be harder to answer without pics but realistically I’m not expecting much insight/help.

“My boyfriend doesn’t think I’m pretty”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for three months (long distance), and he doesn’t care about looks at all. When I asked him if he thought I was pretty he said I was “normal.”

I got really upset. I honestly wanted him to say I was pretty, and still have no idea if he finds me attractive. I know he does care a lot for me and I care for him, but I’ve been upset ever since he said it.

“I want to play naughty with my teacher girlfriend”

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My girlfriend is a teacher. I couldn’t believe she punished naughty students to stand because she is so cute and gentle. I was kinda turned on by that. By the way, spanking isn’t allowed in schools these days and standing naturally becomes the most common punishment in classrooms.

As I was a good student during school days, I was hardly punished. The only time I stood behind classroom alone for not paying attention to the teacher was a very long time ago. I miss the fun we had during school days and am eager to be a “naughty” student and to be punished to stand, especially so, because my girlfriend is a teacher.

I tried to tease her about how naughty I was but she thinks I am a good boy and wouldn’t want to punish me. Any suggestions to seduce her into this role playing idea?

“My ex-boyfriend keeps using me for sex”

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I’m heartbroken and tired of being “played with.” My ex and I broke up about two months ago, and I am still devastated. I genuinely feel like he forced me to break up with him, because the moment it was even suggested, he agreed and wouldn’t let me take it back.

I haven’t been living here very long. I moved here a couple of years ago, but, haven’t made very many close friends yet. He was my best, and almost only friend. I am friends with people I work with, but I don’t see them outside of work. He has lived here his whole life and has a good network of friends. While we were together, they were kind of my friends too.

After we broke up, he basically insisted on staying friends. I have tried this in the past and know that this is very hard to do! Continue reading →

“I’m trying my best to be a good boyfriend, but I’m failing miserably”

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My girlfriend and I got into a dumb argument that I started a few days ago. It wasn’t a big argument, but it ended with me apologizing and telling her I love her, but she only responded with “okay.” Then, everything went downhill. I barely hear from her at all anymore, but when I do, it’s her telling me to leave her alone.

The next day, I took some ChickFilA to her work (I always do this), and she had a bad attitude toward me. I asked her if she’s mad, and she just tells me that she is really busy. I talked to her mom, and she said she’s been having female problems and to just show support. I try to show support, but I just keep getting “leave me alone.”

After several phone calls to my girlfriend, I finally got an answer. Continue reading →

“I’m thinking of cheating on my boyfriend”

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I’d like some advice on how not to cheat on my boyfriend. So, to start off, I do love my boyfriend very much, and we haven’t had sex yet, we’ve just done minor things. But, there’s this other guy, I’ll call him X.

X has been in my life for the past year-and-a-half of so, and I go to him for advice all the time. I have even told him some of my personal problems. I’ve always known that he just wants to have sex with me, and that he wants nothing serious. I’ve told him repeatedly that I have a boyfriend, and that I’m not the type to cheat, but, he keeps trying to convince me by saying no one will find out, etc.

And I wish I weren’t, but for a few minutes, I was tempted, and I even gave the idea some thought. Continue reading →

“My partner is getting lazier and lazier”

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I need some help. I feel like my partner is getting lazier and lazier, and our life is getting more and more busy with commitments. I already work two jobs, and trying to keep up with cleaning, cooking every night, and caring for our 50 animals is just getting overwhelmed for me.

I think it’s hurting our relationship and my mental heat, but he never helps without being asked, then still whinges or forgets etc.