“I was left out of a threesome”

Anyone ever get left out of a threesome? The wife and I (we are mid 20’s) had a threesome awhile back. It ended up being just the girls that played. I would try to get involved and barely receive anything. Has this happened to anyone else? Do you think it’s more of me not being what the other girl wanted as far as looks?

Now we are trying again, but all the girls we talk to seem to only want her, which makes me happy for her. But it’s like well, fuck, I don’t want to just watch and thanks for making me feel like shit.

Are we just talking to girls that only want other girls, or am I that unattractive? Might be harder to answer without pics but realistically I’m not expecting much insight/help.

2 thoughts on ““I was left out of a threesome”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Threesomes are tricky and the biggest complaint is that someone feels left out. They need to be meticulously planned out and kinda a one at a time play time thing. (A+B gets off C, C+A gets off B, B+C gets off A) The new person to the couple tends to get the most attention, because they are a novelty. You should plan better the next time if there is one. Meanwhile pay attention to anything new the ladies are doing that your lady has enjoyed and learn from them, so your tricks aren’t stagnating. Best of luck to you!

  2. Willowisp says:

    As a bisexual girl (who has been in a threesome as the ‘other’ girl) I can tell you that we get pretty frustrated over time. We generally end up with more men than women because, well, there’s a much larger pool to pull from. By contrast, it seems there are plenty of young women willing to make-out or do something provocative in a crowd (for attention, but hey- I’ll take it), but most of them aren’t actually interested in having sex with another woman. So when 2 ladies of like-mind meet, there’s definitely an added interest/spark between the two because it fulfills a desire for women that has not been met on the same level that their desire for men has. I wouldn’t take it personally or take it to mean you are lacking in any way. You’re simply in the unwanted position of being a commodity that’s easier to come by (sorry). Like the previous poster, I suggest having a more thorough game plan before the next time. Talk to your wife beforehand. Maybe even work out a signal (stroking the bottom of her foot) that lets her know you’d like for her to invite you in to the fun she’s having (I’d give her a reasonable amount of time to enjoy herself while you’re only mildly involved first, for the reason stated above but also because forcing yourself between 2 people having a good time is a sure way to evoke negative feelings that could impact the rest of the experience, IMO).
    Above all, don’t let their self-involvement affect your confidence or self-esteem. Even if the other woman is slightly more interested in your wife (she’s hungry for a flavor she gets less frequently, remember) she went into this knowing you were involved & was down for that. Trust me, any woman who opts for a threesome with a couple is expecting both partners to be part of the action. It’s just that sex can be complicated & the more people you involve, the more complicated it can become. Best of luck to you!

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