Category: Advice Needed

“I’m in a relationship but stuck dreaming about a guy I work with”

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I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years with a good guy. He’s honestly a good person. We’ve been together since I was 20 and he had just turned 30. The first four months of our relationship were amazing. Total honeymoon phase. But after we started living together, he started to show his true emotional weaknesses.

He would play video games for hours, sometime bordering on days. He would come home from work and ignore me until bedtime where he would toss and turn until morning only to do it all over again. We never did anything fun or went anywhere together. I was starting to feel incredibly trapped and unappreciated. We fought all the time, with me always conceding my side to calm him down or make him happy. Continue reading →

“My relationships always go downhill after sex”

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Hi there. I just started dating this guy. We knew of each other for a little while, but recently have been talking/texting every day for almost a month. We have hung out one-on-one before, and I can tell that he really likes me. He says sweet things like that and is affectionate.

The problem is that I have these bad memories of dating guys or being interested in guys who used me, kept me around just to hook up with while being dishonest, and now I associate having sex with “the beginning of the end.” Continue reading →

“I get giddy for my husband’s co-worker after our foursome sex party”

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I’ve been married for almost 3 years now. In the 5 years we have been together, I’ve NEVER once had eyes for anyone else, I’ve just been madly in love and loyal to him.

Until I met his co-worker 3 weeks ago. My husband invited him and his girlfriend over to play pool and have some drinks, and we were all having such a good time getting to know each other. A couple drinks turned into several, then we all found ourselves in a very, very odd predicament….. Continue reading →

“Will I ever meet my online girlfriend”

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I’ve been in this long-distance relationship for about 4 months now, with a girl I’ve known maybe 7 months (since mid September). We stay in contact frequently (Skype, text, calls, etc.). This is the first time I’ve ever been in a long-distance relationship. I’ve never liked the idea of it, but this girl feels so worth it.

We’ve both wanted to meet for a while now, but at this point, I just feel bad for bringing it up. I like to have a plan ready and prepare for things, so I just wanted a guesstimate so I have something to look forward to, ya know?

Both of us being in college, I first mentioned the idea of meeting over Winter Break 2016. She knew she couldn’t because she had no idea how to explain to her friends and family that she was gonna visit a boy she was dating online. I figured she was right and that maybe it was too soon. Continue reading →

“I’ve had a gay crush on my high school teacher for years now”

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I am a female high school senior, and I’ve had a crush on my female teacher since tenth grade (I’m not out to many people yet). She’s single and 17 years older than me. I’ve been trying to get rid of this crush for years, but it won’t budge, even after I stopped taking her class. She’s just so ideal to me: smart, funny, interesting, and pretty … I really fell hard for her and it sucks. I am pretty sure she suspects I like her, but she ignores it (like she should). We have a pretty good professional relationship, and sometimes we talk about our outside lives.

I’ve been mentally debating a lot about whether or not I should just tell her how I feel on the last day. I don’t want her to return my feelings, but rather I think it will give me the closure to get over it and move on in college. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend’s roommate needs a room for his shoes”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. I am a mother of an almost 3-year-old. Being in a relationship with someone that had a child is hard on both ends of the relationship. My daughter comes first before myself or anything.

My boyfriend has a house he shares with his roommate. My boyfriend and I talked about moving in together, but he wanted to check with his roommate to see if he was comfortable with the idea. The house has 3 bedrooms and a basement. My boyfriend has a room upstairs, while his roommate uses one room to sleep in and the other room as his shoe/game room.

When my boyfriend told me it wasn’t a good idea for us to move in, he told me that moving us in would be forcing his roommate out and that his roommate had waited two years to have that extra room for his shoes. I understood the factor of not being comfortable with having extra people in the house, but it bothers me that my boyfriend agrees that his roommate having a shoe room is more important than my two-year-old daughter having her own room. Continue reading →

“My best friend is with a guy I like”

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My roommate and I are both 22 year old women. We’ve both had a crush on the same guy (a friend from an event we do) for a while. She’s hot, I’m the DUFF. A long time ago, when we both admitted we liked him, she made us make a pact that we would be happy for the other one if the relationship happened for them.

I knew in that moment that I didn’t stand a chance, but I still held on to stupid hope. She decided to make a move on him at a party and, surprise surprise, turns out he likes her back. I want to be supportive of my best friend being happy, but it’s really difficult to hear them making out or wonder when the right time for me to leave the room is if we’re all hanging out at our house. Continue reading →

“My intuition has been pulling me in a direction but I’ve been fighting it”

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I have been with my kid’s father for almost 5 years, but broke up after 2 years and then got back together to work things out. We broke up because he said what he was looking for wasn’t me, but then we tried to make it work again and this time around things were going so well.

Then slowly but surely, things have gone back to what it was before. He makes me feel like I’m not doing enough in the relationship and at home. I’m a stay at home mom of 3 kids and I’ve only stopped working for a year to care for our 4 year old and 11 month old twin girls. Continue reading →

“I like this girl but she is still into another guy”

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I really like this girl, and she says she likes me too. But at the same time she is still open about how she’s not over this guy she’s been having sex with for about a year. I’ve talked to her about it and she said she’ll tell me when she’s over him, but I don’t know when that’ll be. My question is – Should I just ghost her until I don’t feel anything for her anymore, or should I continue to cuddle with her and try to win her over, even when I know she likes and is probably still having sex with another guy??

Info – We’re both college students, we go to school together, the boy she can’t get over lives four hours away in her home town.