I’ve been in this long-distance relationship for about 4 months now, with a girl I’ve known maybe 7 months (since mid September). We stay in contact frequently (Skype, text, calls, etc.). This is the first time I’ve ever been in a long-distance relationship. I’ve never liked the idea of it, but this girl feels so worth it.
We’ve both wanted to meet for a while now, but at this point, I just feel bad for bringing it up. I like to have a plan ready and prepare for things, so I just wanted a guesstimate so I have something to look forward to, ya know?
Both of us being in college, I first mentioned the idea of meeting over Winter Break 2016. She knew she couldn’t because she had no idea how to explain to her friends and family that she was gonna visit a boy she was dating online. I figured she was right and that maybe it was too soon.
Curiosity got the best of me, and I asked recently about Spring Break 2017, again not ready to tell her friends and family and being far too anxious to think about it. I suggested one last time sometime during Summer Break, which at first she was on board with, but soon after, she realized she may be taking a summer classes, helping her friends move in August, and spending more time with them, and still not being ready to tell people about me, so summer may also be off the table.
I’ve stopped asking about meeting, knowing that our next best chance is Winter Break 2017. I’ve never been in this situation, knowing I may have to wait a year just to see my own girlfriend. We both love each other a bunch, but I just don’t know what to do. I’m ashamed that I have no one else to turn to but a random internet advice site, but that’s where I feel I am. Maybe I’m selfish for wanting this so badly, I don’t want it to feel like I’m pressuring her or forcing her into anything. I guess I just need input from others. Thanks for taking he time to hear me out.