My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. I am a mother of an almost 3-year-old. Being in a relationship with someone that had a child is hard on both ends of the relationship. My daughter comes first before myself or anything.
My boyfriend has a house he shares with his roommate. My boyfriend and I talked about moving in together, but he wanted to check with his roommate to see if he was comfortable with the idea. The house has 3 bedrooms and a basement. My boyfriend has a room upstairs, while his roommate uses one room to sleep in and the other room as his shoe/game room.
When my boyfriend told me it wasn’t a good idea for us to move in, he told me that moving us in would be forcing his roommate out and that his roommate had waited two years to have that extra room for his shoes. I understood the factor of not being comfortable with having extra people in the house, but it bothers me that my boyfriend agrees that his roommate having a shoe room is more important than my two-year-old daughter having her own room.
To make matters more difficult, my boyfriend wants to meet the father of my child. I haven’t done so because I want to make sure this guy is going to stick around (like forever) and don’t want to deal with any extra drama with someone that’s not going to be there. My boyfriend said he wants to meet the father of my child, because he cares about my daughter and thinks it’s important that the father knows who is around his daughter.
I agree with my boyfriend, but I’m conflicted with the caring part of his reasoning. I feel that he only cares about my daughter to a certain degree or when it’s convenient for him. I guess I would be okay with him meeting him if we were moving in with him, because we would be residing in his home or that I knew that my boyfriend truly cared about my daughter. But I honestly don’t know how to feel or treat the situation.