I met the guy I’m currently dating, on Tinder. I’m 24, He’s 23. We hit it off really well. And we’ve been dating for almost 2 months. He was a really sweet, polite, affectionate and pretty attentive guy. We exchanged I love yous about a month ago and things were going pretty fine. Recently I gave him a little present along with a note and I had a feeling he might have thought it was a bit intense. And he ended up talking about how he’s not the kinda guy who’s gonna give me a lot of time. and that he’s selfish with time. And I seem like someone who needs that. I agreed that I did. He also mentioned that he doesn’t meet that much. And that’s been an issue with previous girlfriends. He made it sound like I should be grateful he’s giving me all this behind the scenes information. But honestly it just felt like he was laying things down and I need to just be okay with it. I noticed that texts and calls sort of dwindled for a bit after that and he would only be affectionate when he was drunk.
A couple of days ago we ended up at his place and we were making out etc and this was probably the 2nd time we’ve been physical. Later that day he was all, Can I tell you something, But i don’t want you to get offended. I said oh um okay. And then he decided against it but of course It was on my mind all day and I called him and asked if he could just tell me. He said there isn’t any nice way to put this, You’re a bad kisser. I sat there in silence for a while and he said maybe you should google how to fix that. I was pretty stunned. And I said wow no ones ever said that to me before. And he was all well maybe you’ve just never been kissed right. I was insulted and hurt and I cried a little. He didn’t realize. And he then proceeded to tell me I have an ego problem. He brought up stuff I’d told him and used it against me. About how my ex left me for his previous girlfriend. And said I’m sure you would have been fine if you had done the breaking up. Like even right now. Not once did you ask how you can improve on the kissing and what exactly was wrong. You were more bothered that I had the audacity to say something like that to you. I told him he could have at least put that across in a nicer manner and he said well I didn’t know how, I’ve never had to say that to anyone before.
I told him he was picking on me now and I was already upset and I dont understand why he’s talking to me like this and he’s SO unbothered that he upset me and acting so different from the way he was initially. He was all this is how I really am. And just kept making jokes. And I said well you’re being kinda shitty. He said no I’m awesome, you just don’t know it yet. I mentioned that he made me cry and he said That’s stupid, dont cry. That really pisses me off. This is not a big deal. You clearly can’t deal with criticism. And you always seem to care too much about what other people think. That’s why you dress up so much isn’t it? I said excuse me? I dress up coz I like dressing up. And he said yeah that’s it, assert yourself. I told him I don’t need life lessons right now. After a point he got annoyed with all my “why’s” and said I was harping on about a tiny thing. I said I want answers and I’ll be as annoying as I want right now. and he said Go to sleep. I was all um I don’t like being told what to do and I don’t particularly like bossy guys. He said my name, and said go to sleep or I will hang up and put my phone on flight mode.
So yeah, I was shocked by the entire conversation. This whole thing threw me. We’ve always been so…nice to each other. I’d love to think of this as our first couple fight but it seems like a little more than that. He was just so flippant. For a bit I felt like he was trying to push me to break up with him. But then he would say stuff like you don’t know how to look at the bigger picture with us. And talk in future-like terms. And It felt like he was trying to mould me.
At his point I don’t know what to think,
I guess the big question here is, Is my boyfriend a dominant control freak and should I leave him?

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I met this guy a year ago and i’m in love with him but i don’t think he likes me. My friends say he does like me and they also say he stares at me and asks about me. He doesn’t treat me good he makes fun of me and teases me because i’m country and he is city. He once told me to leave him alone and we rarely talk.I think about him all the time and i even dream about him every night. It is like torture to me because i LOVE him so much and i don’t see him that much. I’m 12 and he is 13 and i know you are thinking i’m to young to love anyone and to even be worrying about this but i do. Do you think he likes me? I don’t know what to do so can u please tell me?

I’m not good with confrontation and need opinions. What do I say to this?http://imgur.com/buAuQmo

Please feel free to say anything, I just need advice asap

Me and my partner have been living together for 6 years. I have always worked full time and up until recently my partner has not worked. Whilst he wasn’t working he did all of the household chores and made dinner etc. We had hundreds of conversations about our finances and I told my partner on hundreds of occasions that if I am going to be the only working I would like the opportunity to go to college or uni so I could at least get a job that pays enough for me to keep us both. I’d also like to mention that I absolutly hate my current job to the point that I’m depressed. My partner has continually told me to hang in there and stick it out because he plans on joining the police and at this point I could quit my job or go part time and possibly have a baby. Now, last week he started a 15 hour a week job which obviously doesn’t bring in much money and I don’t think he has any intention of ever doing more. I’m so angry because I was fully prepared to keep him as long as I was able to get a degree. But now I’ve wasted so much time based on his false promise. I feel like he could have been honest with me and took a full time job for a little while so that I could get my degree. Instead im now stuck working fulll time in a job I can’t stand in order to pay the bills and not much time to work on my degree whilst he works 15 hours a week. Why didn’t he give me the opportunity is it so much to ask for what I was willing to give in return?

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I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 8 months now. We have gone through a few bumps in this time and worked through them together. I am absolutely in love with her and would do anything for her. She is very independent and very stubborn. We live very different lives as she works about 6 – 7 days a week doing what she loves. The only time i get to spend with her is the odd day she is off or the evenings i visit her. I dont work nearly as much ad have WAY more time on my hands. I support her fully with her career choice. I am there when she needs me for support. Our intimate life is suffering now too. Working such long hours and days makes her exhausted most of the time. She has a dog she loves dearly and it feels like she is more inclined to make time for him than me. We both got flu recently and all i wanted was to take care of her but she wanted none of that. I got really ill and asked if i could stay with her until i felt better. Its been a very up and down roller coaster few days. I am feeling very confused and have no idea which way to turn. I am so in love with her that it would kill me if i lost her because i did not try hard enough. I saw a message from her uncle asking her if she’s married yet. Her reply was that she doesnt think she will ever get married. This is what i want and she has told me she thinks about it.

How do i approach this confusion and get her to talk to me?

So, my girlfriend and I have been together for a while and we’ve been mostly happy. We have a few pitfalls, but it’s mostly because I can’t seem to get over her ex. Yes, HER ex. She’s still friends with him, which I knew going into the relationship would be difficult, but I guess it’s harder than I had expected. My girlfriend is terrified of possessive people, and I’m worried that I may be one. Even if it’s just over him. I want to get over him and just be happy with her but I don’t know how. I don’t see him as a threat (I’m not worried about her cheating on me), I don’t think he’s better than me, and there is very little reason for me to be jealous over him, but for some reason, whenever she talks about him it drives me crazy, or when I see the two of them talk happily. I also have a somewhat uncontrollable imagination, so I accidentally imagine the two of them together a lot… I’d rather not ever talk to the guy, but if I have to I will…Please help me. Thanks!

A boy In my class has been stalking me for the last 5 months … he has an evil smile on his face and he continuously stares at me… where ever I go he tries to make eye contact like sitting on the opposite cafe table. .. he’s told his friends something about me and they laugh and point when I walk by he sometimes stands up too…. I don’t understand him does he like me … is he making fun of me .. I think it’s his habit to stalk girls …maybe he has fun doing it .. but I’m the one who takes things seriously. .. I wasntnt know why…. I think he’s a player but I’m getting trapped by him … why am i not walking away…he’s not honest Ifeel that but. .. what should I do?

This is a really sticky situation so be prepared. I have a transgender ftm boyfriend over the internet whom i have never met, i dont really know how we became a “thing” but it happened and i regret it :s. I want to break up with them but i have no idea how, its a really tough situation because they have self harmed in the past and i do not want to be the cause of it if i break up with them.. I have nothing agains transgenders but it just feels strange, i dont know I just really need help to stop this before it gets out of hand. Thanks.

We met on tinder..met him out at a bar the first date..and spent the whole night talking.. Laughing and then the next morning he went back to NY to finish up w his moving since he is moving to Dallas..the first week was great with texting and the sweet names. Seemed to answer texts pretty quick.. The start of the 2nd week he became very busy with work which is understandable but most times taking hours to return my text. So I was honest and just asked him when he asked if he could see me when he came to town.. I said I just don’t get the feeling your into me lately and he said it has nothing to do with me.. I’m completely interested.. This job just had me really busy..saying he was in conference rooms with co workers and not even breaking for lunch or dinner and they all eating in the conference room..He came back on Thursday.. He wanted to come right from the airport to see me.. Came w a bottle of wine which I thought was sweet, we didn’t drink it… We watched a movie and layed down to sleep since he had to be to work the next day.. Nothing intimate has happened this far except kissing and a small bit of touching. He is very affectionate. So the next day he asked me to dinner.. He got off work late and I met him at his hotel.. We went out to dinner.. Then decided to go to a bar.. Great time.. We laughed and joked.. Went back to his hotel.. And that was the first night we were intimate..he seems really into me.. Very passionate when he kisses.. Like he is completely in the moment.. We sleep in the next day and layed around the hotel.. And then decided to go to breakfast after being intimate for the 2nd time..we ate and had good convo and it’s so cute how both at dinner and breakfast he kept sharing his food with me..insisting I share with him… We go back to the hotel where we talk for another 2 hrs and then I left and he was going to text me and maybe get together that night but had previous plans with his friend.. We ended up not getting together.. And he text me late and said have a good night, which I was sleeping.. In the morning I woke up and text him back and 8 hrs late hasn’t read my message or responded.. Just so confused..I’m used to if someone is interested you know it.. You know they are thinking about you by you hearing from him.. I didn’t even get a good morning or how’s your day..I asked him yesterday if he’s looking for a sexual relationship or more.. His response was.. I am looking to meet someone and see where it goes :(… So I just don’t want to continue liking someone who in one hand I feel like he is into me but on the other hand I feel like he’s not…help.. I’m new to dating.. I don’t know if I’m expecting to much or if he just isn’t into me…

So, this guy I really like, asked me to prom. He’s a junior and I’m a sophomore. It’s a Junior and Senior prom. After he asked me, I asked if I could get back to him. He said that’s okay and that he hopes I say yes. I couldn’t bring myself to reject him so I told him yes. I do want to go with him. I don’t care for prom itself but he asked me and I know how shy he is. So, I really appreciate him womaning up. My problem is my mother is a traditionalist and doesn’t believe that I should attend Prom in my sophomore year and she thinks that boys are a sin. She doesn’t want me to go. I see now at this moment that I should have just said no because I know my mum. My sister and cousin have come up with a plan but the sister my mother trusts the most doesn’t want to participate. She said she won’t say anything but she won’t help us. I have to tell him no. He is the sweetest guy and his mom is so nice. She asked a lot of questions about me and she asked what color etc. I really really really need help. I don’t know what to do. The thought of me telling him no is killing me but the thought of my mother getting angry with me or upset or anything else….I hate that. I can’t do it. I want to go. I want to spend an amazing night with him. I want to also have my mothers blessing. I need a good way to tell him no after I told him yes or I need a way to convince my mum. Or maybe even make him not want to go with me….even that would be better. I like him a lot but I’d rather sacrifice my own feelings than their feelings. I wouldn’t be able to take it. The guilt would drive me insane. Please, help me. (: