So, my girlfriend and I have been together for a while and we’ve been mostly happy. We have a few pitfalls, but it’s mostly because I can’t seem to get over her ex. Yes, HER ex. She’s still friends with him, which I knew going into the relationship would be difficult, but I guess it’s harder than I had expected. My girlfriend is terrified of possessive people, and I’m worried that I may be one. Even if it’s just over him. I want to get over him and just be happy with her but I don’t know how. I don’t see him as a threat (I’m not worried about her cheating on me), I don’t think he’s better than me, and there is very little reason for me to be jealous over him, but for some reason, whenever she talks about him it drives me crazy, or when I see the two of them talk happily. I also have a somewhat uncontrollable imagination, so I accidentally imagine the two of them together a lot… I’d rather not ever talk to the guy, but if I have to I will…Please help me. Thanks!