Tag: sister

“He was sexual with his sister”

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Please help settle this tiff between this couple:

K says:

Okay, so my boyfriend informed me last night that between the ages of 12 and 13, he engaged in sexual activities with his blood sister. There was no penetration, but foreplay took place. He stopped once they were caught by his father. It took 6 months for him to tell me, and I completely understand why it was so difficult for him to tell me.

I feel disgusted and confused. He shows clear remorse for the situation, but also expects me to be calm and collected about it all. I cannot stop thinking of psychological repercussions. I’ve never had a sibling of the opposite sex. Is this normal? He is trying to convince me to some degree that it is not unusual and I just don’t understand.

I know the past is the past, and I love him and who he currently is. My main problem now is the length of time he took to inform me? I believe I should’ve known about this prior to us entering into a sexual and emotional relationship.

R says:

I come from a different culture and a different country — one where sex is much much more taboo in general and not easily accessible. This was somewhat of a common occurrence in my area, and while I do admit it was wrong, I do not see why I even had to tell my significant other. It should have no impact on our current relationship. I was only a child when it happened.

“My sister’s boyfriend stole my wedding ideas!”

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My boyfriend of 5 years went to my little sister 5 weeks ago, and told her he’s proposing. He brainstormed with her on a nice way to ask my parents etc. 2 weeks ago, I walk into my mother’s, and my sister’s boyfriend  is there awkwardly, and spills the beans that now he’s proposing to my sister too! (He didn’t want me to know, I inconveniently walked in).

I’m upset because my sister has absolutely no idea, and innocently was telling her bf about my bf’s plans and he decided to sprint ahead and get to my parents first, two days ahead of my bf!

I find it really upsetting, is this wrong? My mother doesn’t get what he’s thinking, he literally has taken all my bf’s ideas for everything that he was doing, as my sister was naively telling him my bf’s plans! I never would think I’d be upset by something like this.

 

“My bosses sister touches me inappropriately”

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I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it. I don’t know how to get out of this situation? I’m writing this post because basically I’m lost. I don’t know what to do?

I invited my boss’s sister to join my all female group with a specific focus. My boss is always complaining that her sister is socially awkward, and lost in life, so I decided to invite her to join my group. I have worked there for the past two years but my boss doesn’t like me. She seems very uninterested and unimpressed with me. I should also admit I’m scared of her. She basically ignores me in the office and our offices face each other.

Twice a week, after work, I facilitate this all female group with a specific focus. My boss’s sister started coming to the group two months ago. She is a 53 years old, short like 5ft 2, skinny, masculine, freckled face, creepy green eyes, thin lips, red haired woman . I am a 39 year old 5ft10, heterosexual, curvy hourglass shaped, attractive brunette. Continue reading →

“My fiancé thinks I have too many issues”

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I am a 29 year old medical student. Doing well academically, but this year has been hard. You see, after my sister passed away in 2013, I withdrew from medical school for some time, to take care of my parents. I eventually gave up. But I later realized I still want to do it, I made a promise to my sister I’d get back in it.

In the mean time I met this girl, things were decent, we had our differences, but it worked. She wasn’t career oriented, I was, and I eventually got back into medical school. I was doing very well, till the doctors told me I needed open heart surgery. Continue reading →

“My sister is a horrible step mother”

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She has a two year old son and three step children. She despises the step kids. When her child was born she wanted their father to take a month’s “break” from the other children to bond with theirs. He told her he couldn’t take a break from being a parent and would take care of all his kids.

She throws a tantrum any time he does anything with his other children or if they come over. She calls the seven year old fat, and has banned her from having snacks. Even though the two year old can have them. She has gotten so bad that she even makes up lies on them to try to win people over to “her side”. Like telling people the teenager is inappropriate with the younger children. Nobody but her has ever witnessed it.

I have tried to reason with her. She just gets mad at me and accuses me of being judgmental and keeps repeating that her son shouldn’t have to do without a father because his ex drops those “brats” on them constantly. It’s gotten to the point to where I am missing out on my nephews’ life because I can’t be around that.

“My wife is mad that I helped my mom out”

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So here’s my situation… I’m wondering if you guys think that this is absurd or whether I did something wrong.

In a nutshell, my older sister (34) passed away unexpectedly last week. My mother was obviously very upset, so I left work early to see her that day. Around dinner time, I went to the kitchen to cook her some dinner and realized that she was pretty much out of groceries. So, I ran to the store, picked up some dinner, and then bought her about $85 worth of food to keep her going for a few more days.

Fast forward to tonight. My wife, after analyzing our online banking transactions, comes downstairs and is LIVID after finding out that I spent $85 on groceries for my mom. After laying into me for a bit, she tells me that I am not to waste our money like that, and that my mother is taking advantage of me. She also told me to ask her to pay us back.

We’re not exactly struggling. My family income is about 85k annually, of which my job generates about 80%. My mom is divorced and makes somewhere around 22-24k.

Was I wrong here? I feel like this was just a small way for me to help in a time of need….

“My girlfriend’s sister is ruining our relationship”

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I’m in a relationship with the love of my life. She’s amazing and we are perfect for each other. The problem is that I’m her first serious relationship in a while, and her twin sister is having issues with me taking her sister away from her.

At first I got it, I’d feel bad too if someone took my best friend away from me. But recently she’s gotten seriously malicious towards me and I’m not sure if I’m pissed or upset or just confused as to what to do. Continue reading →

“Should I go to my sister’s wedding?”

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I’m in a long distance relationship and we plan out our visits months ahead of time because we know what long weekends we will have to see each other.

My sister broke up with her boyfriend in August, was dating a new guy two weeks later, and 3 months later in November she was engaged to the new guy. They announced they would be married a year from then. Suddenly in December, they announced they would be getting married in 6 weeks. (Some background… this new boyfriend got her involved in Amway, a company known for its multilevel marketing aka a pyramid scheme.) We did our research and the company works more in your honor as a married couple. So our consensus – they are marrying such short notice because of their jobs BUT they are telling everyone it’s so soon because they want a small wedding with immediate family only. Continue reading →